What’s wrong with Tabitha???

[Rjd13]

So I’ve learned the hard way that sharing your names with family and friends doesn’t always give the reaction you expect. If I’m having a girl I love Tabitha and so does my other half. I’m due in early October so think it suits the season too.

Everyone I’ve told hates it. HATES. IT.

I really don’t understand why it’s so contentious and it’s really upset me. I get a lot of ‘that’s a cats name’ yet I know of pets called jasper, molly, tess etc and there doesn’t seem to be the same concern. So even if it is associated with cats - why is that so bad?

My mum and nan have joked about using the middle name instead and other people have laughed or even gone as far to say it’s cruel. Am I mad? I don’t like anything else half as much 😩

@worstmotherintheworld I also know a family with a Felix and a Tabitha, wonder if it's the same one!

Tabitha makes me think of a female cat (Tabby for short). Get real.

I know a few women and girls called Tabitha. Never met a cat with that name personally! I like it - it's a lovely name.

greatat Maybe! And now I'm wondering if they are obsessed with cats!!

God what is it about pregnancy that makes people feel so confident to voice their inappropriate questions/unwanted opinions?!...

Was it planned?
We're you trying?
Bloody hell your bump is huge/tiny
Oh my god I hate that name!

I'm a pretty open person, but the frequency of being asked if we were shagging without condoms was a bit much. So was the list of reasons why people hated our chosen names. From out right just hating it, to long anecdotes about people they met once 30 years ago that were named that. I get that you associate names with people, which is why you will never find a name every single person will love. We learnt our lesson, and with DC2 and they all found out his name when they met him!

Anyway, apologise for the hormonal rant and massive derail op! I think Tabitha is a lovely name. But more importantly, you love it. So fuck them.

I love it - I was a total bewitched fan back in the day and that’s all it reminds me of not cats - you call your babies whatever you want don’t let people ruin your experience

Love the name Tabitha.
Never tell anyone the name youve chosen before the baby is registered.... they will view it as a discussion and tell you their feelings!
One of my close friends pleaded with me 'not to call your child that' when I told her our favourite name lol..... we still used it!

Tabitha is a nice name - I wouldn't have chosen it myself, but would think 'nice name' if I heard it on anyone else.

People comment on names when it's just an abstract idea; in fact, as you've found out the hard way, the comment freely and frankly - with their very honest opinions!!

When you introduce a new baby, and the name is a fait accompli, people are much more polite, keeping their true thoughts to themselves.

Just use it - if you love it, you will regret not using it, and it's a nice name.

I know of 2 Tabitha's. One is 4 and one around 20. I don't love it or hate it to me it's just a name. One is known as Tabby and the other by her full name.
If you love it that's all that matters plus it isn't massively popular that would be more my concern the popularity of it.

I have a Tabitha and I love it. Everyone we meet is really positive about it too.
Mil didn't like it when she was born but tough. Like you, when I was pg with dd1 we mentioned a couple of names to mil/dm and they were very opinionated so we didn't tell any of the names until after the birth. My babies, my names.
Have a Tabitha - they are awesome!