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Name coincidence or too creepy

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octonuddle · 21/12/2016 07:01

We have a family friend who has 3 daughters, all grown up. When we had DD, DH and I both loved a particular name that happened to be the same name as one of the family friend's daughter. It is a lovely traditional name that is not very common (not in top 100 but very recognisable). They were delighted we picked the same name and made a big fuss of DD.

So, now we are due number 2 - if it is a girl, we love a name which goes beautifully with DD1 name - and you might have guessed...happens to be the same name as one of family friend's other daughter.

Would that just be too much?! Creepy right? It is not deliberate! She just happens to have outstanding taste in names! What would you think if you were family friend?

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perfectlybroken · 21/12/2016 07:05

I think i would discuss it with her and see what her reaction is. I'm not saying you need her permission but it might be good to explain how you love the name and joke a bit about wether you using it would freak her out. She might be delighted and the you don't have to worry!

Dilligufdarling · 21/12/2016 07:07

I agree with pp - have a chat first.
Just going ahead a presenting them with their DDs mark 2 would be a bit creepy!

neonrainbow · 21/12/2016 07:24

That is creepy. Theres thousands of names out there, pick another one.

tryingtosleepzzz · 21/12/2016 07:32

Definately not! I would find it very odd if a friend chose my children's names!!!

Raines100 · 21/12/2016 07:33

Creepy. Sorry, but it would be.

Mombie2016 · 21/12/2016 07:35

My DPs friend has two DDs the same as our two DDs - ours are both 6 months older than theirs - they named their DDs the same as ours. DP is super chill and even he finds it really creepy.

ClarissaDarling · 21/12/2016 07:35

Overkill I think, is it maybe because you hear it with the other name so much it's gone a bit subliminal??

ChickenPoop · 21/12/2016 07:39

Definitely creep territory. Even if they smile and say it's a lovely thing to do again they will definitely be about you behind closed doors.

guiltynetter · 21/12/2016 07:41

too much! one maybe, 2...no. think of something else!

fledglingFTB · 21/12/2016 07:48

It's not a "coincidence" though, is it? You are aware of their names. They have clearly influenced your choices. if the names go together, that's clearly due to your friends careful selection.. Not serendipity!

Odd. Trust in your own taste. The false pretence would wind me up too.

Staranise123 · 21/12/2016 07:48

Creepy and unimaginative!

Stormwhale · 21/12/2016 07:51

No sorry, that is just weird.

Nickname1980 · 21/12/2016 07:52

Definitely strange! I agree with the previous posters - pick another name!

Pluto30 · 21/12/2016 07:53

No, it'd be weird. There are lots of other names to choose from.

lovelearning · 21/12/2016 07:56

She just happens to have outstanding taste in names!

octonuddle, tell her that.

What would you think if you were family friend?

octonuddle, ask for her opinion.

SatsukiKusakabe · 21/12/2016 08:00

There are so many other names, I'd feel really embarrassed choosing exactly the same twice. They reacted well the first time, and that's nice, but don't push it.

Why not ask her to make you some suggestions? There might be some she didn't use that you love.

DollyPlastic · 21/12/2016 08:01

Creepy

SausageSoda · 21/12/2016 08:02

Doing it once, fine. Doing it twice is odd and very creepy. There are millions of names in the world, surely you can find another that you like?

Lunar1 · 21/12/2016 08:02

Really creepy!

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 21/12/2016 08:03

Creepy

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octonuddle · 21/12/2016 08:05

Mumsnet has spoken! Thanks for your comments...we will definitely remove it from the list!

In defence, the family friend is a lady that goes to church with my elderly aunt so we are not exactly close. We didn't know her daughters names when we named our first DD and after she found out she sent a lovely card and gift. The second name we both loved and I thought it was familiar...I asked my aunt and she told me it was her eldest daughters name! So may have been subliminal...either way we wont use it!

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Chelazla · 21/12/2016 08:06

My friend and I at work both had two kids with the same names and we thought it was quite sweet! Then when she got married came back to work and her new surname... Same as mine! I think it's fine if kids are grown up and they don't mind x

Chelazla · 21/12/2016 08:07

I think it crazy not to use it personally!

SatsukiKusakabe · 21/12/2016 08:22

Now you've explained the connection...I don't think it would seem creepy as you're not that close and didnt really know her that well when you named your dd.

I'd revise my opinion to look at others as I'd still prefer to find my "own name" but if you can't find something you love I don't think it's as out of the question as it first seemed.

Nickname1980 · 21/12/2016 08:25

Ok now that you've explained - as PP said - it's not as bad. I'd still try and find something new though.

I like the suggestion of another PP who said ask her for other name ideas she didn't use. She has the same taste as you, after all!

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