Baby arriving tue, still no name but thinkin maybe oliver/ollie. Honest opinions plz

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Just that really, is oliver over done/too common? Id use ollie generally but have oliver on bc, however my dp says ollie is 'gay' , i disagree. Ds1 had no name for over a week as we couldnt agree so this time i really want one before he arrives.

It's not gay but has been done to death.

I know lots of Ollies.

But it's fine as a name.

How nice of your dp to (1) attribute a sexual preference to a name and (2) use gay as a derogatory term.

Do you want some ideas for names, OP?

I have an Oliver who is always Ollie and I love it and so does he! He's only 3 so dunno if he's gay lol but never really considered the name to be especially that way! Are any names?!

Downside is there will almost certainly be another one in his class. Upside is its a fab name in both formats. But if your DP is so opinionated on it, you haven't got long to change his mind!

Myname, my dp is being a complete asse, agreed. Imperial suggstions would be great thanks. Clever i dont think any names are 'gay' or otherwise and i get you on the one in each class thing as my ds and dd both have an oliver in class but i still like it.

If it was ultimately my say with no input from dp id have Benjamin no questions asked but he hates that, hence the battle.

Ive been through so many online name sites etc and am fed up of musing, so any origional but not to over the top ideas are welcome, thnx.

Oliver & Ollie are the most popular names by a long, long way here. Every other boy under about 14 seems to be one.

How about;

Ben (does dropping the "jamin" change DP's mind?)
Isaac
Zach(ary)
Jack (less common nowadays but still lovely)
Jacob
Tom (Thomas)

Oh & I stuck to more traditional names, as that seems to be your taste?

Oliver and Benjamin were top two names for my ds!

Other names I like are
Adam
Martin
Isaac
Zac
Sam
Ethan
Patrick
Elliot
Daniel
Joseph
Nathan
James
Benedict

I love Oliver. DH wasn't so keen, we had a dd. The name we chose is in top 5 but so what?
I liked Oscar as second choice.

I think classes are going to be full of Olivers and Olivias - but then so what if you like the name, what does it matter. My friend named her son Peter Oliver over 40 years ago and we all thought it was a strange name. When I named my son Daniel 47 years ago, it was very unusual, now they are 10 a penny. I do think it's odd though how old names are coming back. We have 3 Arthurs in our street (all under 3) and I hear even Wilfred and Albert are coming back - yuk. And I heard of an Ethel the other day and a Mabel............so what comes around goes around.

When my cousin called her daughter Laura over 50 years ago we were all gobsmacked and now there are many teenagers called Laura, though I think it's dying down a bit now.

What is it you like about ollie?

Billy - William
Joel - joey

Oliver/Ollie is very overused but still a lovely name. If you're fine with that then you should go for it.

What about?
Connor
Alexander
Samuel
Luke
Michael
Joshua
Harrison
Ryan
Joseph

Oliver is fine if you like it.

Some names are popular because they are classic and appeal to everyone. Like the girls name 'Lily' its popular because it sounds nice to say it.

Oliver is a great name.

I prefer something a less mainstream. It's very common - there would be 3/4 of them in each of my boy's year levels at school.

Taking the fact that it's widely used out of the mix - Oliver is a lovely name. I really don't like the nn Ollie.

On the naming, do not be pushed into a rushed decision, really don't be. My ds was over three weeks old before wet named him and it was absolutely right to take our time because we too were at deadlock but because we took the time to work it through, we are both totally happy with the choice we made. I've never understood the rush to have it all over with before you've even seem them.

Thanks for your responses everyone. Completely think those who said its very common are right and agree that it doesnt ditract from it being a nice name.

Birthday i think thats what is going to happen as last night i tried to broach the subject wih dp again and hes quite closed to discusion which is frustrating, its almost like he feels the need to meet him before naming him.

Agirl, i like a few of the names in our list but dp has already dismissed most of them which is very irritating as hes so closed off to many ideas.

Glasshammer i lile ollie as i dont hear it ss often as oliver and its 'nice' and not 'chavvy' sounding imo. But oliver would be given to allow him to use the more adult verson once hes an adult.

Im not set either on tradional or not, it can be anything that is appealing and will age with a child/adult. Its so true that many 'old fashioned names' are coming back around but as i work with older people i usually know someone with those names and i would rather not have an association to the name in that respect just as a personal thing.

Things would have been so much easier if it was a girl as we had lots of names we liked and agreed on!

What did you decide, OP?

I like Oliver but it is common.