Is the middle name Barry too cruel?

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DH has just announced that he would like this DC to have his father's name as a middle name if a boy. It is Barry. Would we be too cruel to burden bestow a child with this name?

Yes. Are you nuts? It's awful.

I think your post really says it all as you're obviously not keen. Maybe you could compromise - does he have a better middle name? Or maybe you could change it a little to Harry? Or how about make a list of middle names that you like and let oh dad choose his favourite and involve m that way.

It is possibly the worst name ever.

No, it's a great name.

One of my best friends is called Barrie. Occasionally he gets the odd comment but actually it is fairly irrelevant. I think a middle name is a great way to show respect to someone you love and doesn't really matter what it is.

It's a family name! Loads of people have embarrassing family names that they're not especially keen on, but I think it's a very nice thing to do, to honour a child with the name of a family member.

My dh is called Barry I don't find it awful at all!

He doesn't have a middle name :(

See I know FIL would be chuffed to bits if his name was in one of the DC's, but it's a truly awful name! I suggested to DH that we use his middle name as FIL chose that but he was having none of it.

I don't think its that bad. Maybe because I knew a Barry as a child. Its not like its Dick or something.

Anyway, if you agree to this as a middle name, that gives you the deciding vote on the first name :o

I know a three year old Barry named after his dad, he's a lovely little boy.

3 year old Barry?

Cruel.

What's wrong with Barry? I know loads of Barrys, genuinely why everyone thinks it's so bad?

Middle names don't matter much anyway do they?

Is a middle name.

Is fine.

I knew a boy at uni called Barry he seemed popular enough, hadn't held him back until we all realised he was a raging racist, which did make him deeply unpopular

It's actually a really nice sounding name. Just suffers from the Gary/Barry/Sharon/Tracey connotations.

Ignore that. Go with it as middle name. Imagine tht you're naming him after j m Barrie.

In Edinburgh, Barry is a slang word for brilliant/great. ie 'that's pure barry'

Is FIL from Cork? Barry is short for Finbarr in a lot of Cork Barrys - Finbarr is the local saint. Also a common surname here. I am fairly sure nobody knows two of my teenager's middle names, the other one has decided to use both forenames but she is fairly unusual!

It's fine as a middle name.

I went to primary school with two boys called Barry,this was in the 90s,and I don't think they were ever teased about it. I didn't think anything of it anyway.

Not cruel at all as a middle name, especially as it's a family name.

Most people don't know each other's middle names anyway.

popular name in Ireland!

As a middle name it's quite cute

Yes. Isn't there another nice family name you can use?

One of my grandparents has a name she refused to allow any of her grandchildren to have so her mum's names were used instead.

It's not that bad, and it's actually an Irish surname so it might pass for a surnamey middle name.

You could maybe consider using the name Barra instead -- Barry is the English version; afaik the name originated in Ireland.

I bet there are lots of babies with middle names like Keith, Roger, Graham, etc, that would never be used as first names. DD1 has a friend whose mn is Lorraine after her granny. That's a name you would never use as a first name but it's fine for a mn.

It's fine as a middle name.

My sister has the name Marjorie as one if her middle names. My Nanna died while my mum was pregnant so my sister got a name from her. It's an old nam but so is her 1st and 2nd then its Marjorie

(DD2's boyfriend is Keith, they are 15. She knows another Keith as well. Two Keiths! But no Barry).