The jealousy which comes when other people use a name you can't. Is it just me?

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DH has completely and categorically vetoed the use of my all-time favourite boy's name for our (currently 28 weeks gestation) DS. It's a name which translates very awkwardly into his native language, and which, when translated, acquires a lot of negative connotations. We've found another name which translates back and forth beautifully and it's lovely.

However, a woman in my office has just had a DS and has used the name. And I am ridiculously, stupidly jealous.

I know it's just pregnancy hormones blowing everything out of proportion and I'll get over it. But has anyone else ever felt like this?

We need to know the name before we make a judgement!!

But then everyone in the office will find me on MN...

Can you write it like this

S E B A S T I A N

Tell us the name! they will only find you if it's massively unusual!

Yes I agree. LOVE the name Ursula but can't use it as 'SULA' is a derogatory term in my language :O(

If you love it that much stuff the negative connotations, real or imagined, and just go for it. I did with my son, many eyebrows were raised but we bravely went for it. :).

Not to make light of things but some seem convinced they can't use a name for all sorts of (sometimes trivial) reasons. These days increasingly anything goes I know some perfectly lovely parents who have chosen names which would make many here cry with laughter, but you get used to them and I admire the parents for going for it. Doesn't seem to adversely affected the children either, if anything they have a 'cool' factor at school. I think sometimes we worry too much.

Ooh do please tell the name. I wanted Campbell or Struan but dh vetoed both, was gutted. Live in England now (originally from Scotland) and was even more gutted to find a Campbell in our village, never ever expected to come across one!

yes yes what is the name?

I think it is true that sometimes we think we can't use a name but actually we have built up the negativity in our heads.

I saw waterloo road recently and there is a child called Sambuka. At first it seemed the most ridiculous name i had ever heard, but by the end of the show it was just another name. Same and jenny or jane.

if you love it enough then use it

You are definitely not alone, and it doesn't even have to be hormonal

As the others said, are you really sure you could not use it?

Alternatively, I have found the name becomes less special after a while when it becomes someone else

I should have namechanged before posting this!

Really, we've found another name we both like. I may see if DH is persuadable for a middle name...

Use the name you like. You probably won't even have contact with your office colleague in a few years time. Last month good friends of ours called their DD the same as our 2 year old, we have no problem with it and we called our DS the same name as another friend's wee boy who was only born 3 weeks before, they had no problem at all.

I like Jemina but it has been vetoed by DP as it sounds alot like his horrible ex girlfriend's name. He says he doesn't want to have urge to break stuff everytime he hear/says his bay's name. Fair enough I guess. Gutted though!

Bit of a thread hijack, but what's bad about Sula (for Ursula)? I only ask 'cos I know one and think it's lovely.