Use sil's baby name as a middle name? Ok or not?

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My sister in law has just had a baby girl and has used the name I had planned as a middle name. It's a family name, been in my family for 400 years. Would it be awful to still use it as a middle name if I have a girl in Jan? We don't live in the same area. Would that piss you off?

no. Just say to her, I hope you dont mind but I love the name ..... too.

Most people would take it as a compliment, and besides its a middle name not first.

yanbu no body owes any names

No not if its a family name, my cousin, my dd and me all have my mum's first name as our middle name. It was the name of my grandfather's mother.

oops was not a aibu

It's fine, can't see any problem with it especially as it's a family name anyway.

I agree - if it's a family name then why not? I would explain that to her though.

Thanks, I will bring it up and see how she reacts.

I gave my DD my gran's name as a middle name. My sister did the same with her DD. No bad feelings here. It's a family name so not like copying is it. Mind you I was a bit when my BIL said they were considering naming their DD the same name as my DD coz they like it so much. That would be a bit weird imo. And rather confusing for everyone, especially as our DC saw eachother on a weekly basis and the girls were 9 months apart in age.

Definitely fine, especially as it is a family name - it's your family too!

If it's a family name you can definitely both use it. My family reuse the same names over and over again. I actually like the connections it creates.