Hi everyone
Not sure if this is the right place to post but it didn’t feel right to post in the miscarriage section so hoping it’s ok in here 😔
On Friday I sadly had to have a tfmr at 12 weeks due to various serious abnormalities in our baby. They think he was a little boy 💙 I had medical management at the hospital which thankfully was over quite quickly and I got to go home that evening. I wasn’t sure if we’d strong enough to see him after delivery but we did and I’m so glad, the hospital gave us a little memory box to take home.
We’ve opted to have a post mortem done and they will test the placenta to hopefully find out the cause of abnormalities, since this wasn’t diagnosed prior to the tfmr. However they’ve said that this can take 13-14 weeks to get results back since the lab is being used for covid etc 😩
So I guess the point of this post is that I know it’s so early but I don’t feel like anything is going to make me feel better apart from knowing that I’m pregnant again 😞 but I’m terrified of trying again before we’ve found out the cause in case it’s something that’s likely to happen again. They’ve said I will have a follow up appointment at the fmu in 6-8 weeks but even that seems so far away. Has anyone else been in a similar position and did you try again relatively quickly? I feel so guilty for even thinking about it 😢