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High Chance of Downs from Quad Test

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Monty83 · 04/12/2019 15:51

Hi All,

We had a phone call from the Fetal Medicine Centre today to say that we have a 1 in 5 chance of our baby having Down syndrome. I feel so upset and my head is in a complete spin. We can not decide whether to have the Harmony Test or the Amnio done. I am 16 weeks so I'm worried that time is against us. We are very undecided as to what we would do if our child had Downs Syndrome. There is a part of me that desperately would want to keep our baby and another that doesn't know if we could manage (my husband has a cousin with Downs and so we have had some insight into what it can be like). How do you even begin to make a decision about these things. I'm so conflicted about everything. It's our DS birthday tomorrow and his party on Saturday. I dont know how I'm going to get through it all.

I'm not sure why I'm posting really as I know that the answer can only come from us but I just dont know what to do...

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OceanSunFish · 15/12/2019 16:33

So sorry to hear that you’re in limbo Monty. Fingers crossed that you get the call soon. If it was me I think I’d want to go in as soon as I could rather than hang around at home for you

Nightmanagerfan · 15/12/2019 17:08

Just found this thread and I’m so sorry you’re going through this, and that’s distressing re the delay too. Will they operate tonight do you think?

I had a TFMR last year for downs. Our risk was 1 in 5 like you and the CVS confirmed it. It’s heartbreaking. One thing I’d say is that I don’t regret it at all and I am 100% sure it was the right decision. Because of this it was ok to move on from. I also remember feeling hugely better about five days after when my hormones settled down a bit.

The procedure itself is quick and the nurses were very kind. I hope you find the same.

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Monty83 · 15/12/2019 18:57

@Nightmanagerfan thank you. Unfortunately for me though because I'm 18 weeks I have to go through labour. We have finally got a time of 8:15 this evening xx

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AlexanderHalexander · 15/12/2019 19:46

Good luck Op, thinking of you

Nanmumandmidwife · 15/12/2019 20:21

@Monty83 So sorry to hear of your delayed admission. I hope you are now there.
With love xxx

lostfrequencies · 15/12/2019 20:29

Gemamy1984 · 15/12/2019 20:50

@Monty83 we're with your every step xxx

OceanSunFish · 15/12/2019 20:52

Thinking of you OP

SueDoeName · 15/12/2019 20:52

Monty
I remember it well. But was absolutely right thing to do - though that doesn't make it easier or take away the heartbreak. I hope you aren't messed about any longer. ❤️💐❤️

Gemamy1984 · 15/12/2019 21:03

@Monty83 we're with your every step xxx

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