Ladies, what absolutely lovely messages from you all, thank you so much.
Darlingclem I'm very sorry to hear that you lost your daughter, thank you for sharing your experience.
I phoned the midwife this morning and asked for a referral to an obstetrician. She wasn't particularly friendly, which I was surprised about, and kept saying that they don't normally refer such cases. I insisted and she reluctantly said she would make the referral.
kittyandteal Thank you for the reassurance. Yes I am holding onto the fact that all other aspects of the 12 and 20 week scan were perfectly normal and no sign of a small baby at the moment. My DS risk was 1:11,000 (not exactly 11,000, can't quite remember the last 3 digits!). The sonographer mentioned the 2 vessels almost as a throw away comment at the end.
pinkisthenewpink your comment about mind craft made me smile, thanks :-) Glad to hear your child is well.
I need to try and focus on the fact that at the moment I have a healthy, good sized baby growing inside of me and hopefully that will remain the case. I got very emotional about it which I'm sure a lot of people would think silly.
My plan at the moment is to wait for the obstetrician appointment, have a private growth scan in a month, followed by the NHS scan at 30 weeks so that means a scan roughly each month. I'm not sure what the NHS will plan after 30 weeks. Do you think that sounds enough?
The Harmony scan which tests for DS, Edwards and Patou syndromes costs £500 which is a bit steep for me and I'm not sure I need it. What do you all think?
Thanks again for your replies. It's meant a lot.