20 weeks scan not good news

[ErinH]

Wondered if anyone has been in a similar position and if you could shine some light on the findings in a non-medical way.

20 week scan flagged up a collection of defects:
A Choroid plexus cyst
Congenital heart defect (VSD and ASD)
Excess fluid around the baby
Enlarged gall bladder
Small for dates

Now I know it doesn't look good. I'm absolutely devastated and am cherishing every kick and moment i have with my little boy. I've an appt at hospital on Monday to do further scan tests and amnio (as suspected underlying chromosomal abnormalities).

I've prepared myself for bad news but still hoping that things may surprise me.

Anyone, anyone who can offer me information, good or bad from personal experience would be so very very welcome.
Thank you.

Hi Erin,

I'm so glad you've managed to make the best decision for you. I know Monday will be hard - Fern's funeral was just on Tuesday and it was much harder than I expected, but I have had some good times throughout the difficult times of the last few days.

It's a lovely idea to plant a tree for your son - we plan on holding onto Fern's ashes, but we're going to plant a tree for her too.

Take care.

there is a thread i started that tells my story if you want to read but today i have labour induced at 22 weeks. allready had fetocide.
i have decided if it is possible id like a cremation so i can scatter the ashes somewhere nice. maby this would suit you to. im sorry for your loss