to not know what to do??

[haribomum]

hi i am new to this site but desperatly need some advice and have been lurking for a while. not sure if this is the correct place for this but i really need some advice.

ok here goes -
i have been with dp for 5 years now and we have ds 4, dd 18months and ds 6months. i have just found out im now pregnant again and am terrified tbh.

dp says we cant cope with another baby and to some extent i agree. it is hard with 3. just not sure i can abort.

im so confused and feeling tired and sick every hour of the day. can anyone help here? any exps of 4 under 5? triple prams? or any positive/negatives about termination?

thankyou for taking the time to read this x

See your GP, get some counselling.

Its highly likely you would cope with 4. What is "coping", anyway? Its sort of getting away with it. If you get away with 3, you'll probably get away with 4.

Its not to say you should though - but it sounds like you have doubts so you need to talk it through with an impartial, qualified 3rd party.

Why not also try posting on the 'larger families' board? You find it under parents.AIBU isn't the best place for constructive advice.

thankyou sloany. my head is all over the place at the moment. one minute im thinking we can do it, another i know we wont manage.

in a perfect world i would love to keep the baby, just seems so unrealistic at the moment.