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To feel annoyed every time my friend does this

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LovingTheRain · 08/07/2009 12:16

Maybe IABU to be annoyed by this so feel free to tell me to shutup be quiet!

Every time my friend rings me/ I ring her, when she wants to go, she always says "Right well I really need the loo so I better go".
It really annoys me when she does it as I would rather she just said she had to go/needed to see to her DS etc.
I think the main reason it annoys me is because I know the reason she is getting off the phone is not to go to the loo every time. I don't mind at all that she has to go,I often say I need to go if one of DCs wakes up/someone knocks the door etc. I just wish she'd tell me the truth!

I haven't mentioned anything to her as I don't want to upset her.

AIBU to be annoyed when she does this? Would it really petty if I said it next time she calls?

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McSnail · 08/07/2009 12:20

This may sound weird, but talking on the phone has a laxative effect on me... I'm seriously not making that up.

MsChievous · 08/07/2009 12:20

Maybe she has a weak bladder, it might make her if you mention something.

I have a friend who always says bye three times, i alwasy laugh after i have hung up.

Maybe next time jokingly tell her you don't want to know about her toilet habits

MoonchildNo6 · 08/07/2009 12:22

depends how long you're on the phone for. My friend used to talk for hours and I always ended the conversation in the same way because I was desperate for a wee.

Tamarto · 08/07/2009 12:22

YABU

Does it really matter? You don't know that she doesn't need to go though.

MsChievous · 08/07/2009 12:24

At least she doesn't take you to the loo with her

LovingTheRain · 08/07/2009 12:24

I have been at hers for coffee a number of times and someone will ring and she says it to them too (though I don't think she knows I have heard ehr say it to others!! )

She hasn't been to loo afterwards, she's just come and sat back down!

I guess IABU but have PMT and it annoyd me this morning!

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Surfermum · 08/07/2009 12:25

Maybe she isn't that confident about saying she's had enough of chatting. She might feel she'll offend you and make you feel like she doesn't want to talk to you.

I wouldn't bother raising it with her, just accept that's what she's like.

junglist1 · 08/07/2009 12:26

YANBU, I'd be thinking she just didn't want to talk to me (I'm paranoid though!). What I hate is one friend who calls when she wants something, but has a long convo first acting all interested in what I have to say, then she goes for the jugular. It's so fake.

LovingTheRain · 08/07/2009 12:26

annoyed**

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LovingTheRain · 08/07/2009 12:27

junglist1 - One of my friend's does that too. I usually tell her I am busy as she always rings to ask me to have her four children. I have four of my own and 8 is too many with such a varied age range!!

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fircone · 08/07/2009 12:31

YABU

She's just trying to say politely that she's had enough/got something else to do.

Times are I've had to say "Oh, someone's coming to the door - I'll have to go" when they aren't at all.

cyteen · 08/07/2009 12:34

I just had to check your profile to see if I knew you

And for the record, I'm another one who really does need the loo if I'm on the phone longer than half an hour (curse my small bladder).

anniemac · 08/07/2009 12:49

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MamaLazarou · 08/07/2009 12:53

YAB a bit U sweetheart. It's just a daft little habit she has. No harm done to anyone.

bumptwitknocker · 08/07/2009 13:22

You'd rather she said that than "I'm bored of being on the phone to you know, because you don't talk about anything interesting and I'd rather do something else".

nappyaddict · 08/07/2009 13:50

I always say to my mum "Batteries about to die gotta go"

fizzpops · 08/07/2009 13:51

Libraries always make me need the loo.

nappyaddict · 08/07/2009 13:52

Doctors for me

RenagadeMum · 08/07/2009 13:55

Just laughingly point it out next time. My friend did this to me as I always stopped our calls with 'Must go, suppers ready'.

The only thing was, it was always true as we used to speak at about 7.30-8.30 at night.

Now I just say, 'gotta go, I need to watch TV'

sweetnitanitro · 08/07/2009 14:01

Ask her if she's taking the piss.

I'm sorry

onthepier · 08/07/2009 14:21

My ds, aged 7, just says "I've talked for long enough now, bye!" We're training him to say "I need to go now!"

LOVINGTHERAIN, your friend prob doesn't feel confident in ending a telephone conversation but doesn't realise she uses the same excuse all the time! I tend to vary mine for this reason, "Internet shop just arrived/someone's knocked on the door/need to do an early school pick-up today", etc!

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