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AIBU?

To be really nervous about my wedding tomorrow?

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memoo · 03/07/2009 18:53

I'm getting married tomorrow and am absolutely bricking it. I'm so nervous I haven't even been able to eat all day.

DP thinks it is a bad sign that I am nervous but I absolutely love him to bits and I'm only so nervous because our relationship and the wedding really matter to me?

Surely its normal to be really nervous?

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FigmentOfYourImagination · 03/07/2009 20:04

best of luck. Nerves are normal, I was scared shitless when I got married.

beanieb · 03/07/2009 20:06

"I'm not nervous about actually being married its just the actual day itself. I hate being the centre of attention hence we are only having quite a low key wedding but I still want everything to go right"

CONGRATULATIONS!

you sound like me. I'm getting married in 3 weeks and I am dreading all the fuss. Mine is low key too, just not low key enough IMO

KingRolo · 03/07/2009 20:12

I'm going to a wedding tomorrow. Is it yours?

Seriously, I was exactly the same the night before my wedding. I don't like being the centre of attention either but the day was great and I'd do it again tomorrow. Nerves are normal. Good luck.

teafortwo · 03/07/2009 20:24

CONGRATULATIONS!

You will enjoy it I am certain!!!

dizzydixies · 03/07/2009 20:28

oh lovely congratulations

take some rescue remedy and that will help with your nerves

titferbrains · 03/07/2009 20:50

Oh how lovely a wedding, hope your day is wonderful, don't worry about nerves, it's a big event but when you get to the end of the aisle and you're holding his hand everything else will fade away and you'll just feel huge huge love. You'll smile so much your cheeks will ache and it will be the best day ever. Enjoy!!

MiniMarmite · 03/07/2009 21:18

You'll have a wonderful day

Neither DH or I could eat or sleep for about 3 days before our wedding. It was horrible and I was utterly convinced he was going to run away (and I couldn't rule out me running away either).

We had the best day of our lives, our only complaint being that it went so quickly. It goes soooooooooooooo fast.

Wishing you a fabulous day tomorrow x

kalo12 · 03/07/2009 21:22

make sure you aren't tensing/hunching your shoulders when being photographed. keep them down.

down walk too fast down the aisle, milk it a bit

enjoy your day

VinegarTits · 03/07/2009 21:25

It is only natural to be nervous, i remember my sil laughed and cried at the same time through her vows (hilarious) hope your day in wonderful and memorable (sure i will be) good luck!

memoo · 03/07/2009 21:29

My name doesn't begin with G Alestorm it begins with J, how about your friend Omfg?

Beanieb, I don't think my wedding could ever be low key enough for me, if DP could just sneak off on our own I think I might have just done that.

Thanks everyone for all the lovely words and advice, I'll remember to relax my shoulders on the photos Kalo, thats a good tip

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memoo · 03/07/2009 21:31

""i remember my sil laughed and cried at the same time through her vows ""

That will so be me Vinegartits!!!!!

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VinegarTits · 03/07/2009 21:32

'sure i will be' should be 'sure it will be'

I'm pretty sure i wont be memorable

VinegarTits · 03/07/2009 21:34

Ahh bless her, she was so sweet (sil), if you do laugh and cry it will be endearing, so dont worry at all!

Pinkfluffyslippers · 03/07/2009 21:49

Of course it's normal to be nervous before a big event.
Have the most wonderful day and just remember to keep breathing.

I didn't get time to get nervous before my wedding as we were moving house that morning BUT I did feel really really anxious in the middle of the night AFTER the ceremony. Perhaps it was nerves or too much champers. ANyway 18 months on I'm happier than ever.

Have a wonderful wonderful day and remember it's not the wedding it's the marriage thats the important thing.

PS : Remember to keep breathing.......
BIG hugs.

SH27 · 03/07/2009 21:55

Congratulations!! It is completely normal to be bricking it.

Have a wonderful day and take time to enjoy it, as it whizzing past so quickly.

Kazzi79 · 04/07/2009 02:47

I've never been married but I guess nerves are normal, 2 of my old school friends are also getting married on 4th July.

Good Luck for the wedding and I hope you have a very happy future together

Qally · 04/07/2009 03:07

I was DREADING my wedding, so terrified, just wanted it to be over and done with and out the way. It felt like some horrifying cross between a major exam and an operation and at some very basic level I was quite, quite sure it couldn't actually come to pass. (Should add that my dad is on wife number 4 and mum never remarried, though I had a stepfather - but that also broke down. I had ishoos.)

About halfway up the aisle, hand in hand with dh (we went in together, snarling from nerves tbh) I realised I wasn't scared. At some point early in the reception I suddenly realised it was genuinely the best day of my life - all the people we most loved, all having a lovely party to celebrate DH and I being nuts about one another. It was very, very special.

Take a few moments together, just to enjoy the day. You'll remember those moments, and if you think dc's infancy goes fast...!

We've been married 4 years now. Life is fab. Scaredness means nothing except you know this is a big/final commitment.

Congrats, and enjoy your day!

memoo · 04/07/2009 06:18

qually, what a lovely post!

keep your fingers crossed for me today ]smile]

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chaosisawayoflife · 04/07/2009 07:56

Good luck memoo, have a fab day!!

This thread has made me come over all funny. I get married 3 weeks today and nerves hadn't even come into it, but now reading this and seeing how you were feeling the night before has got my heart thumping. I can just imagine it and I think I'm going to be a nervous wreck now!

Ponymum · 04/07/2009 08:45

Memoo - So excited for you. Have a lovely day. The weather looks beautiful. Smile, breathe, slow down, and think to yourself: I am at the most wonderful party in whole the world, all to celebrate how much someone loves me! Personally, I think that's the best party theme ever!

Don't forget to come back on to MN to update us later. I mean, you won't be doing anything else will you?

Tillyscoutsmum · 04/07/2009 08:49

Good Luck Memoo - you will be FINE and it will all be fantastic Congratulations x

memoo · 09/07/2009 09:40

Just a quick update, I really did have the best day ever! When I actually stood there infront of DH saying my vows all my nerves just vanished, its just felt 100% like the right thing to do.

Have been knackered all week though! being 29 weeks pregnant and getting married and always a good combo! and I sent my GD haywire because i ate a huge piece of wedding cake and loads of sugary things

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MiniMarmite · 21/07/2009 09:28

Congratulations Memoo! Glad you had a wonderful day

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