To accept defeat and get a cleaner

[allgoodnamestaken]

DD and DS are expected to do their rooms every weekend. I know that teenagers aren't necessarily the tidiest but I just can't live with how messy their rooms are. I also feel that it is restricting how I interact with them - I don't feel comfortable going into DD's room for a chat when it's like a pigsty.
In an ideal world they'd keep their rooms clean but that's not happening and I don't want to have to clean them - I work full time, have other cleaning to be doing and they are perfectly capable of doing it themselves. I'm tired of the rows and at this stage I think that I'll just get a cleaner to do the upstairs of the house. I resent having to spend money on this but maybe a cleaner every two weeks would help them keep on top of it.

Why do you row. Mine had messy rooms at that age if they want to live like that that's on them. Maybe threaten them with a cleaner. I would have thought most teenagers wouldn't want parents cleaning their rooms due to privicy.
There are bigger hills to die on.
Would cleaners pick up dirty clothes underwear and floors covered in mess.

You have a cleaner to do the rest of the house - perfectly sensible for you, plus you are providing work for someone else.
But don't ask your cleaner to do the teenagers bedrooms - everything needs to be tidy before the cleaner comes in to clean, so that wouldn't work out. Just let the kids live in their own filth, as long as they don't spread their messages into other rooms.

I agree leave the dirty feckers to it. When mine were teenagers the rules were mess stays in your room apart from that its up to them how they live. As adults one is really tidy one is still messy. Im glad I didnt waste years arguing about it.

My advice is to keep their bedroom doors closed at all times and focus on communal areas of the house. Get a cleaner to help you with communal areas. Your DC will grow up eventually and keep their own surroundings tidyer and cleaner.

One rule I would impose is no food in bedrooms. This would stop mice.

When my son was a teenager we had a cleaner but they didn't do his room. He had to keep it clean/change the bedclothes etc. Also cleaners (usually) don't tidy, they clean.

I suspect that you would exchange nagging them to clean their room to nagging them to tidy their room ready for the day the cleaner comes.

Just close their door. Chat in the lounge, over family meals or in the car.

This is exactly why I’ve never found cleaners help!