Have you had random crushes

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I used to hang out with a group of people , all close and fond of each other, knew each other for years, and every now and then I'd get a crush on one of the men. I might have known him 3 years and liked him as a friend, then looked at him one day and....boom!! It happened two or three times. It was totally random. I never ever understood it. I didnt want any of them as bf , and tended to go outside the group for my relationships. . Not really a reasonable/ unreasonable question so.much as a curious amd slightly baffled one. I just never understood the utter randomness of it. Anyone else ever experienc this . How can you suddenly really fancy someone from 3 years of nothing?

Yes, that's exactly it. I wish I knew. what was going on in the brain when that happens. Maybe some people have slow ' attraction chemistry' and reach ' peak' attraction level very late on and it takes X number of encounters to trigger it. It's weird.

Not so much on people I know but I often get crushes on random actors when they play a certain character.

As in them playing a different character the feeling isn't there but then they play a certain role and I'm crushing over them? For an example Johnny Depp but only as Jack Sparrow kind of thing. So strange

Yes, it has happened to me a few times, usually at work. Even after a few years of feeling nothing in particular for them....boom!! I think it happened when we worked really well together and got along really well. Nothing ever happened between us though!!

I have a friend who used to be like this in our student days — periodic violent crushes on a couple of guys she usually only felt friendly towards. I think we concluded it was a combination of boredom and hormones. Plus it was cyclical in her case in that it happened with the same guy more than once. She never acted on any of them.

Yeah, that’s happened to me in the past definitely. I haven’t had a crush since I met my husband 13yrs ago though!

😂maybe that's what it was

Yes this happens to me reasonably often. I’ve worked out it lines up with whenever I’m ovulating - I suddenly fixate on one person - real or an actor - and develop an intense crush for a week or so. Not every month. I just enjoy it for the harmless fun it provides and wait to see who it will be next time.

All my life. I’m in my 50s now and it still happens. I don’t see it as a problem as I would never tell the person and I would never act on it, it’s just something that happens and I thought it did to everyone, really. I don’t see any harm in it.

Yes, this is the only way I get "crushes".

I can only crush on someone after knowing for a couple of years. It is usually part enjoyment part agony when it happens. Is usually someone wholly inappropriate or unavailable.

I am currently not crushing anyone, and it is lovely. I love this quiet.

I can at times get a “fanny flutter” over someone I’ve known for quite some time. On occasion when it has been appropriate (in other words no others involved), I’ve acted on it. No regrets, but l’ve probably caused a few surprises along life’s path.

These days only for famous people, I guess that's because it's safe as they're never going to happen😆

my best crush ever was when I went to pub to ask the new manager for a job.We talked all afternoon and I didn't want to leave him, it felt like the best first date ever even though it wasn't a date! I had the lightening bolt feeling and that happy high you never want to come down from.I got the job and after work, 4 nights a week the pub next door was open until 1 am so we would go there after we'd closed up. It was always really packed out busy but we would stand at the bar and talk to each other as if nobody else was around . Friends would notice we only had eyes for each other.A few weeks later he asked me to go back to his for a coffee one Saturday night and 30 years later we are still together.

Have you considered you might be Demi sexual OP? Demi sexuals don’t feel attraction to anyone until they have built a strong emotional connection with them