When my partner moved in with me he had a shared dog with his sister that's in his sisters name, the agreement they had was that he sleeps at ours and when my partner went to work he went to his dad's and his sister picked the dog up and kept him until my partner finished work and he picked him up on the way home, on my partners days off we would have him most of the time and she would have him now and again which I didn't mind, we had time for us, he was never alone in my house and I wasnt looking after him.
I got pregnant and she stopped having him when he wasnt at work so when my baby was a few months old my partner said to me we are going to after either leave him alone in the house or not take our baby places dogs cant go, I felt cornered so started leaving the dog in the house alone now and again to do things as a family, before I went back to work my partner had to swap jobs so he could pick our baby up from nursery and started at 6am so we had a chat and the new agreement for the dog as she was now on maternity was she would pick the dog up at 9 and he would pick him up on the way home, so she picked him up at 10/11 and he picked him up on the way home, then she started dropping him off and I thought she was being nice as it saved my partner about 20mins in his day but it got earlier and earlier and when I said something to my partner it was a case of shes just walking him now and bring him back, no chat, nobody asked and im now looking after a dog I don't want to, I went back to work and shes leaving him in my house all day and just picking him up to walk him which I wasnt happy about, my baby's 1st birthdays here and I put an annual leave day in to rearrange my room, do food shopping, bake a cake, blow up balloons and a deep clean while my babys at nursery so the rooms ready for her the day after I waited in for her to come for the dog so I could get started, I rung my partner as she was late and he said she will be here soon probably just running behind so I waited, 14.30 and my partner said shes not coming for him as shes gone holiday clothes shopping.
A few months later we went on holiday for 2 weeks and she was having her dog 24/7, my partner said before we went she wants to leave the dog in my house, i said no, he said shes going to have to for 2 days as she has a builder coming in, I have a camera in my house and checked it, she put the dog in my house on a morning and collected him around 6 every day, she said when we got back she wasnt having him while we were on holiday anymore so we now cant go on holiday, she went back to work in September and told my partner she wasnt picking him up anymore as she wants to spend time with her baby, I didnt ask for a dog, I dont want to look after him, I am frightened of him, he nips as hes a collie but hes not aggressive and they both know this, the only argument we have had over this dog ended in my partner saying he cant make her pick him up.
Before my partner moved in both my sofas had hardly been sat on, my rug was 1 years old, sofa cushions bought after I moved in, new curtains after I moved in, my partner moved in 3 months after I bought this house, 1 of the sofas is badly damaged to the point nobody wants to sit on it, curtains desperately need replacing and the rest are now at the tip, cant replace damaged items while we have the dog, I was 3 months pregnant with my second when she said she wasnt picking him up anymore.
My partner doesnt want the dog and said I could contact rescues which I have been and just waiting for a place, my dad doesnt like dogs so I was putting him in the garden while he came but I've upset 5 neighbours with this so my dad can no longer visit, I cant have anybody round now as nobody wants to come, my family are upset about it as it is and on my baby's 2nd birthday (only had a tea party with my mum and 3 members of his family) his sister was complaining about dog hair and stuff and I think she forgot my mum was sat at the side of her so my mums even more upset and Im now feeling depressed, I hate being in this house, its all stressing my partner out and feel like my maternity has been taken from me as I remember what it was like with my first and its completely different, im starting to hate people and lose sleep over it, I also dont know if its now damaged my relationship or not, I suppose im just wanting an outside opinion because im getting peoples opinions I haven't asked for who are close to different people so their opinions are complete opposites.
Ive put this as things I've been there for only as some things will of been said that I wasnt there for.
Thanks for reading