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80 year old nurses.

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IveGotAnIdea · 05/11/2026 10:01

I've recently taken early retirement from the NHS after 37 years because I realised that I had given it my all and was burned out and also because I thought it would give a younger person a chance to progress.
Over the years, I have worked with many nurses and AHPs who were in their late 60s and 70s, who had retired and returned to senior roles and quite frankly did bugger all, they would openly joke that they were there for the social side! Turning up with freshly baked goods each day and then wanting to chat about their many exotic holidays or grandchildren for an hour. They invariably proved to be a huge distraction while Rome burned all around. Their sick records were also so much worse than younger staff.
There are currently hundreds of young nurses struggling to get their first job or working as carers while desperately applying for every job going, others leaving to go abroad because of the lack of progression opportunities.
Am I being unreasonable to think that the NHS needs to stop encouraging clinical staff to stay way past their best before dates and maybe even introduce a mandatory cut off age.
If they miss the hospital environment there's always volunteering.

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MrMucker · 05/11/2026 14:42

Apart from the blatant ageism here, it's just not true that people leaving a role will enable a new employee to enter that space. That is definitely not how a hiring freeze works!
Be careful what you wish for, because if those more mature colleagues all decided to leave at once I can guarantee you the first people to take up the slack would be existing employees rather than looking for new ones. ie yourself.

You dont sound very aware of how vacancies and hiring are currently restricted across the entire public sector.
Also you sound very focused on generational differences rather than human commonality. I hope this is not reflected in your approach to caring for older patients too!
"hurry up and die please, there's loads of younger ones waiting for a bed you know".

BillieWiper · 05/11/2026 14:42

x2boys · 05/11/2026 14:38

It would depend on their role i used to be an RMN and i worked in both Dementia inpatient care and acute in patient care
On ocaasion i have had to be part of a restraint team it was hard enough in my 20s i dont think i could do it now at 53
So i cant see how somone 70+ would manage
Without it being unsafe for everyone .

Edited

I guess they sent the old ones to me because I was a very compliant anorexic with a broken hip. It was an ortho trauma ward I was sectioned to.

So I couldn't run away and only weighed about 34kg. Once they realised I was there I think the bank RMNs all wanted their shifts with me. It was just watching me eat and sleep, do obs and making convo! Hopefully a good easy patient! 😆

Gettingbysomehow · 05/11/2026 14:51

Missteefied · 05/11/2026 14:27

There will be nurses still working at age 66 -67 as they can't yet get their pensions. Some will be able to claim their NHS pension earlier but many can't due to changes to NHS pensions
You may think they should have planned better but for many when they first signed up their NHS pension age was 55 or 60, but has since changed to 67 for many. Also there are other factors that they did not think about such as divorce, a partner too unwell to work etc
Many will have had the advantage of being able to get on the property ladder sooner, but they are a generation that were encouraged to take interest only mortgages who the found out half way through the term, that the life insurance for this they had being paid for years, were not going to pay out enough. This forced many to have to change to repayment mortgages and have to extend the term of their mortgages. This was down to miss selling and market crashes

Every nurse will have individual reasons or needs about how long the need or want to work. There are very hard working and competent nurses of all ages, that form the majority of the profession. Unfortunately there will always be some that don't work as hard or act as professionally, but that is not about age and more management of behaviour

I could be retired now but my husband running off scuppered that.

InQuiresandplaceswheretheysing · 05/11/2026 14:51

I work with someone in their mid 70’s. She is just not up to it. For her own sake she needs to retire. She doesn’t do long shifts any more. It’s sad, as she things she wants to do. But her husband won’t retire, so she’s lonely.

socialbatteryisdead · 05/11/2026 14:57

Sitnext2arealfire · 05/11/2026 11:02

There is no mandatory retirement age in the UK any longer. However some jobs have a cut off due to health reasons. Therefore as long as people are able to do a job to the required standard, they can continue.

State retirement age is 66, 67, 68+ depending on your age

Most people prefer to retire if they are able & enjoy not working.

The late Queen was working into her 90s !

The late Queen wasn’t slogging her guts out on a hospital ward. She had the best of everything. She didn’t have to worry about making ends meet on a state pension , she wasn’t scared to put the heating on. Very different.

MsJerryBelle · 05/11/2026 15:49

IveGotAnIdea · 05/11/2026 10:33

The logical best before age is 67.

It's possible to retire before that if you have planned appropriately, or get another role doing something different.

I’ll be more than happy to retire when I’m ready. That could be early, or later than 67. My only considerations, though, are completely based on my own needs. I’d never retire purely to step aside for someone younger. I didn’t expect that when I was younger and making a success of my career. I’ll retire whenever I like.

CatrionaBalfour · 05/11/2026 15:52

InQuiresandplaceswheretheysing · 05/11/2026 14:51

I work with someone in their mid 70’s. She is just not up to it. For her own sake she needs to retire. She doesn’t do long shifts any more. It’s sad, as she things she wants to do. But her husband won’t retire, so she’s lonely.

If she's not up to the job, then management should deal with it.

IveGotAnIdea · 05/11/2026 16:26

mybiggreenfrog · 05/11/2026 14:02

They can't introduce a mandatory cut off age. That's age duscrimination!

They do in the fire service and military.

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SockPlant · 05/11/2026 16:28

Ageism and jealousy? Blimey.

People say all sorts of shit at work. It may not be true.
Accept tasty baked treats with grace and get on with your life.

CatrionaBalfour · 05/11/2026 16:29

IveGotAnIdea · 05/11/2026 16:26

They do in the fire service and military.

So did people report this skiving and shirking?

SpaceAngel1999 · 05/11/2026 16:33

We have nurses at the trust I work for well into their 70s. I’m only 45 can wait tot get out there!

IveGotAnIdea · 05/11/2026 16:35

CatrionaBalfour · 05/11/2026 16:29

So did people report this skiving and shirking?

I've reported bad practice many times over my career, but report the beloved Pam, Mary or Sherrie? you've got to be kidding, they are untouchable institutions.

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CatrionaBalfour · 05/11/2026 16:51

IveGotAnIdea · 05/11/2026 16:35

I've reported bad practice many times over my career, but report the beloved Pam, Mary or Sherrie? you've got to be kidding, they are untouchable institutions.

What shocking malpractice. Was there no-one higher to complain to? I'm astonished that any nurse would behave like that, in such a demanding job, others having to work harder to compensate.

Sewingbeedamned · 05/11/2026 16:53

IveGotAnIdea · 05/11/2026 16:35

I've reported bad practice many times over my career, but report the beloved Pam, Mary or Sherrie? you've got to be kidding, they are untouchable institutions.

Then that’s an issue with the manager and you are wrong to focus on staff. I have worked with a lot of useless/lazy younger workers who are drinking buddies of managers and who get away with murder. It’s not linked to age.

tinyspiny · 05/11/2026 16:57

When I was a nurse , the sister on our ward had a friend who was a bank HCA who she had known for many years . This HCA was 78 , frankly she was useless , she didn’t take shifts on any other wards because she basically was only capable of handing out dinners / feeding people . All it meant was that all the other staff on shift were having to do her share of the patient washing / toileting etc . This obviously didn’t affect the sister as she barely did any of that stuff anyway . So for at least 2 day shifts per week the ward was effectively one person short just so this woman could top up her pension .

pusskins06 · 05/11/2026 17:07

Band 7s are predominantly admin workers The amount of paperwork /meetings, audits, staff supervisions, rota compilation etc they have to do is just crazy hence being predominantly office based. I worked until age 69 as a band 6 bank nurse. My experience was there were hcas and registered nurses who were "serial sickies" often citing mental health as the reason . Difficult for management to deal with as they are terrified of being accused of discrimination. Unfortunately the nhs sick pay policy lends itself to abuse 😟

Lavenderandbrown · 05/11/2026 17:14

I worked with a nurse manager the last 5 yrs of her career with her retiring at 73. She didnt want to but she was definitely gently pushed to retire mainly because she thought she could come back PRN but lacked a bachelors degree.

she was extremely resistant to change and would talk openly about doing things “like this always or for 10 yrs we have done xxx) You don’t want a nurse ignoring best practice standards

she made many mistakes in the last three years

she had 14 weeks of sick time due to illness surgery spouse surgery

she jeopardized her retirement by removing from the employer plan and giving to a rogue investor. She could not afford to retire

she was threatened by staff who were more competent and more attentive to patient care

she only cared about meeting budget targets not the patients. I think she thought if she kept the department under budget no one would require her retirement

Not sure if this is age related but medicine does require you to be present be agile and be able to think quickly clearly and carefully.

TheHateIsNotGood · 05/11/2026 17:20

@BorgQueen re obese nurses, I've noticed that too and how slowly they trundle about. If they were rushing about as much as many claim to do that excess weight would quickly drop off. Lack of breaks and access to good food is no excuse, many jobs involve that.

Outside of nursing I've noticed quite high levels of unfitness amongst younger colleagues. A colleague (very obese) 20 years younger than me recently asked me if I had ADHD as I was always moving around. I'm 64 and I don't have ADHD I just make sure the job is done..

Allseeingallknowing · 05/11/2026 17:28

As a former nurse there’s no way I could have done these long shifts in my fifties and sixties, let alone seventies. It’s sadly true that many nurses are morbidly obese. In my time many used to go for cigarette breaks leaving colleagues to do the work.

Ohnobackagain · 05/11/2026 18:00

Pingsung · 05/11/2026 10:33

I could write a post saying I wish some of my much younger collegues would get off their arses and do some work. I dont because they are not all like that .

Same. I’ve got lazy older, younger and similar age colleagues. Likewise, plenty of hard-working ones, too @IveGotAnIdea and as for me, well, I’m old enough to retire and I work my arse off. Hate slackers!

C152 · 05/11/2026 18:06

BillieWiper · 05/11/2026 13:19

Idk how a nurse on a hospital ward could get away with not doing their work. Their patients would complain or potentially die?!

I've had loads and loads of RMNs and a lot of them were 60-70 plus. DK about 80. But they were just as capable and professional as the younger looking ones.

Shockingly easily. And yes, patients (or their carers) do complain, yet still nothing is done. Some patients do die.

SomeoneIsWrongOnTheInternet · 05/11/2026 18:20

It beats me how anyone can do these hard physical jobs into an old age. I started looking for something else because i got to 50 and started havinv trouble with my feet and shoulder. Most healthcare staff have bad backs. Schools are simply ageist, you do see more older women in the NHS but not really past retirement age.

SomeoneIsWrongOnTheInternet · 05/11/2026 18:21

Whereabouts in the country was this, op? Its not something ive seen.

Floristian · 05/11/2026 18:25

MyCatChloe · 05/11/2026 10:42

Whoopee! Another ageist post on Mumsnet. 👏🏻

Yep and there's no point reporting it because I've never yet seen MN take down an ageist post (and I've been here forever).

ElectricThrowAddict · 05/11/2026 18:26

I don't recognise what you're talking about and have three decades of service.

The recruitment of newly qualified staff as absolutely nothing to do with older staff being in post linger. Trusts do not want to recruit newly qualified staff and do not want to provide mentoring and preceptorship or finding fir upskilling. Older members of staff leaving would just lose that skill and experience- it would not be easily or quickly replaced.

I have worked with lazy, disingenuous and toxic nurses and they were all younger than me!