Am I Mad For Considering This??

[PourUsAGlass]

Hi all I need some advice/words of encouragement as cant speak to anyone irl about this!
I'm 41, single, and have found myself agreeing to a FWB situation with a younger (29) man who I've known a while. He's single too, none of us want anything more than sex and we get on great. Have been talking all week and have agreed to meet up on Friday.
And now I'm panicking! He has no kids, I have 2 and, although im ok looking, obviously my body's not what it used to be. I have stretch marks, a wobbly tummy etc. And im sooo nervous. Should I cancel? How do I stop feeling like this? I dont want him to be put off by me. I want to enjoy myself, but not sure how I get past this. Arghh help 😫

Men will put it anywhere, they don't care 😘 😘 😘

Go and have fun!

He already knows what you look like and obviously likes what he sees!

If you want to have sex with him then go for it! Men are not usually put off by a few stretch marks and wobbly bits x

Enjoy!! He knows you, he’s not going to run away when you get naked (quite the opposite).

Lucky you!!

Men find confidence incredibly sexy,
You just need to unleash your inner showgirl and own it!

Well, only you can decide whether the nerves cancel out the likely pleasure of the sex…?

I think this is my issue! I come across as confident, and I think that's what's attracted him to me. But I'm actually far from it! Where my body's concerned anyway....

Is that supposed to be encouraging? 😂

He will as likely be worried about his own body and performance. Relax and enjoy.

Honestly he really won’t care.

As a PP said, men will stick it anywhere 😂

They are obsessed with women’s bodies regardless of what they look like.

We might look at our boobs and think they’re a bit saggy or too big or too small etc - all they see is BOOBS!!!

Same with every part of your body.

They’re so caught up in the moment that they’re just enjoying themselves.
It’s women who overthink things.
The men are just there for the good time.

You are the experienced one and he’s probably feeling a bit nervous about that but he honestly won’t care about your body.

Just focus on enjoying yourselves.

Yes 😅

It was supposed to reassure her thought he really won't mind whatever wobbly bits she thinks she has Etc

When I was in a sort of similar situation I felt exactly the same as you.
Turned out fine - I don't get it, I don't understand what he sees - but he seems extremely enthusiastic 😂

My top tip personally is candlelight. Not too many because then it's too bright. Just a couple is very flattering and helped me feel more confident the first few times. Now I don't care 😅

Go! Have fun!

Well if that doesn't put her off then nothing will.
I'm sure it's great for a woman's self confidence to know she might as well be an inanimate sex doll as far as a man is concerned.
I don't understand FWB at the best times and this just about confirms my scepticism about how they can possibly be a positive thing. You make it sound so degrading for the woman.

Well, unfortunately it's true... If you're ina FWB you're hardly in n it for the lifelong deep connection....
They're using each other for sex....

Just make sure he’s making an effort, not just wham bam thank you.

It will be purely sex and we're both happy with that. None of us want a relationship or commitment. We get on so well, as friends

Yes. I understand they are just using each other's bodies. But I've always assumed even if the FWB supposedly strips away all normal human feelings of care or love it at least requires the sexual partners to find each other attractive. But according to your post the guy doesn't even necessarily have to even feel attracted to the woman to use her body. It's just a form of masturbating for him.

No.

I'm just saying he won't care about flabby bits, or stretch marks etc.

Just like she probably won't care about his flabby bits, or scar on his shoulder or whatever...

My friend. The man wants to have sex. He’s young and you can tell him exactly what you want him to do. Shout encouragement and yell left right up down - whatever makes you squeal in pleasure.

Go have fun. The only person looking at flaws is you so don’t look. Smile. Be bewitching. Have a little wine if you need to.

Thanks for the encouragement ladies 😘 feeling slightly better lol x

Not strictly true. Not all men.

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