A bit unsure how to proceed

[126Doubts]

Almost 37, single, and due to a bit of minor-ish health stuff I’m basically on the sidelines health wise until approximately summer 2027.

So, while rationally I know that even if I met someone in the meantime, it’s not like we’d be immediately trying for a family, emotionally, I’m a bit upset and sort of want to hide away from the world until then. And also therefore unsure re dating in the meantime (I had put it off).

Has anyone been through something similar ? Any general or specific advice ?

Depends on the health issues really

Nothing huge, fixable hopefully, not linked to fertility. Minor ops.
Had an answer re it all today so it got me nervous really…

I wouldn’t recommend dating while you’re feeling like this - dating is emotionally gruelling at the best of times. Are there things you could be doing while you’re waiting for your health issues to resolve, to make you feel better / put you in a good place for getting back on the dating scene? e.g. are there any hobbies/interests you’ve been meaning to try, a course or qualification to do for work, perhaps you want to eat healthier or walk more or trial a new skincare routine, or redecorate/fresh up a room in your house? Would give you something to focus on so you don’t feel like your life is on hold.

Surely you wouldn’t be trying for a family immediately with a new partner anyway?

I wouldn’t hold back dating unless your health issues make dating difficult?

I wouldn't put dating on hold entirely - can't you just identify some places/clubs/groups where you might meet people, join in and see what happens?

i take it you're wanting to have a baby and hoping to meet someone who feels the same. Although most people date to find a mate and think about babies once they are in a stable relationship i get what you mean as we are not getting any younger. .

have you considered fertility tests and freezing eggs or anything? that would maybe take the pressure off. although it costs a lot i think.

i’d suggest you concentrate on your health and get your finances in order for the future. Then date. Then consider pregnancy.

You don’t want to end up love bombed by some random guy and think hes the one - only to find out his true colours a couple of months later, by which time youre pregnant and about to be a single mum and hes a prick.