Looking for honest opinions. For context, I would consider myself a very good friend. I've been friends with "Mary" over 20 years. We were childhood friends and inseparable through our teenaged years. Fast forward to now, I'm married with 2 little boys, 5 and 1. Mary was one of my bridesmaids in 2020 and although we have grown into very different people, we still have a strong bond. Mary got married this year. Last year, she bought a house with her fiancé about 45 minutes from me. I drove over with a present (upon invitation). She later told me that she had 3 bridesmaids picked for the wedding and that she was "very happy" with who she had. I wasn't one of them. Put my big girl pants on, didn't react or anything and stayed composed telling myself it was nothing personal. She chose her brother's wife over me. Anyway, it hurt but I tried to move on. Then again, drove to her house before the wedding between my 8 month old's naps to gift her a designer handbag and 300 euro for her wedding. Went to wedding. Then her sister-in-law (same one who was her bridesmaid) had her baby over 2 weeks ago and she only told me this morning after I tentatively sent a message saying that I hope Mum and baby were OK? I feel like an afterthought. And a doormat. Would you think this person just doesn't want to be your friend? Am I a total idiot? Thanks.