Constant health issues

[RageBates]

I am struggling with my partner's constant complaining about his health.

It has been one thing after another, after another, for the duration of our relationship.
He seems to 'find' health issues that can only be resolved with operations. He's a frequent flier to the GP. He once nearly went to A+E over a small boil (I basically said, you can't do that! Get some drawing paste and see how it goes...it certainly didn't warrant wasting A+E resources)

It is often and really doing my head in.

Sometimes it's just pathetic. The latest thing is he "has a snuffly nose". I honestly feel like I am listening to a whingy primary aged child, rather than a grown adult male.

It is wearing me down, I have run out of sympathy. Some of the symptoms and complaints are just utterly pathetic and I don't know what more to do or say.

I work in the health sector, so I have tons of empathy and sympathy for actual illness...but this seems to be exaggerated or fabricated for attention. It's frustrating and exhausting.

What can I do..?

AIBU to tell him to STFU

I'd be bad enough to keep a list of his ailments, the dates, duration, and outcome, and present them to him monthly and see what he says about none of them being serious, just vexatious really.

If he continued to seek attention with so called illness, I'd have to consider splitting up, even for a time and leave him to it. He will bring you down if it continues much longer, and you will end up going crazy. He on the other hand, will be fine, just moaning a lot about things that are in fact nothing to worry about. He has a mental illness and is on PIP. How did he get approved for that?

So decide if YOU want to suffer or not and make your decision in your own best interests. Only you can decide if you are prepared either to tolerate him or move on. Which is it, as I don't think there is any in between.

He clearly wants to be sick and has made his life so small. He needs to have his mental health checked out but you have said he won’t do that. This is no way to live so I would end it.

You just say that this isn't working for you.
You have realised that you no longer love him and no longer wish to see him, and that you wish him the very best.

The end.

“Geoff, look. I really care about you. I’m also a medical professional. This is my professional opinion: If your physical symptoms are as debilitating as you say, you must insist on a full MOT at the doctors. But you must also agree that if nothing is found, you either seek mental health care for hypochondria or we will have to separate. I’m sorry but it’s your only topic of conversation nowadays and you don’t do anything to help yourself, such as eating more broccoli and fewer chips.”