FTM here wondering am I being unreasonable?
The context, husband is boarderline alcoholic and has been for our entire 10 year relationship. After I gave birth to my son, my mum moved in for 3 days to help me and my husband adapt and she visited every day after that, I am very close to my mum and wanted her around for help and support; she is also a childminder of 15 years so knows children.
Because of the alcohol issue, my mum and husband don't always see eye to eye.
The issue at hand.
2 weeks postpartum, I phoned my MIL worried my husband was getting bad with his drinking and asked her to speak with him about it. I asked her for some support dealing with a drunk husband and a 2 week old baby. She came over while I was out and spoke with my husband, when I got home she turned to me and said
'he doesn't have a problem with drink but he's told me your mum is a problem'.
This was news to me. She then proceeded to tell me I shouldn't want my mum around and I needed to call on her (the MIL) for support rather as my mum was too strong. She's also heavily religious and started spouting Bible verses at me completely out of context too. She told me it wasn't right to have my mum supporting me but that I needed to rely on my mil instead. I was on the line of having postpartum depression around this time and hearing her say all this really upset me and messed with my head as I just wanted my mum around. My MIL also phoned my mum directly and told her that she needed to leave me alone.
Ever since, I have felt so uncomfortable around my MIL. I do not want to spend any time with her and when I do have to see her I completely close up and go inside myself. My husband doesn't understand and says I'm being unreasonable towards his mum. But I just can't get over the way she spoke to me and told me I was wrong for wanting my mum to help and support me. Aibu?