Boring marriage

[DeftPeachSloth]

My kids are older and don't need me as much and I'm starting to get a bit more energy back and ready to experience life childfree again eg nights out, weekend trips, fun things you can't do with young children.
My partner has no interest in doing anything. Sat night and I said 'oooh shall we out' and the look on his face said it all before he explained he's just not that bothered for doing stuff anymore. I asked him what he meant and he said he'd go for meals and cinema but not interested in anything else really (including travel)
I can't imagine just staying in forever. I'm not a quiet person and I enjoy getting out.
Are we doomed? I ask because I can't make him go out and do things with me and although he won't stop me going out, I don't want to do it alone. We're in late 40s early 50s

I think it is also a worry you don’t seem to have any friends in your life you can socialise with

Just do the cinema and meals with him for now and see where it takes you.

Is there something in particular you want to do? When you said "let's go out" what did you have in mind?

And he's willing to go to the cinema, and out for meals, even though he would rather stay at home, it seems.

He doesn't want to do gigs etc.

This is what is known as compromise.

He does some things with her. She does other things alone or with friends.

That's how good relationships work.

I have quite a few friends with shared interests. I would say I'm increasingly out every weekend sometimes for food, crafty nights, themes events. Somethings are always going to be better with my friends because they enjoy it as much as me eg karaoke. My partner used to happily come to karaoke with me but would never sing. Now he won't even come. Fair.
I would happily go for food but I'm not a huge fan of the cinema.
We used to go to loads of places before kids but I've come to realise a lot of it was me wanting to go and him just coming to be with me. It seems we're actually very opposite. He likes staying in, I struggle to sit still.

@DeftPeachSloth I'm like your husband, don't want to go out at all, really happy staying home. I've got friends like you that love going out and travelling. It just sounds like the two of you aren't compatible so you either live with it or divorce and find a new man. Or

Let’s form a travel / outings club for middle aged MNers whose husbands are in their pipe and slippers era.

There are plenty of things I’m happy doing alone, but I do also like seeing a film or play with someone and chatting about it afterwards.

DH and I live such extremely separate lives that we don’t have interests in common anymore, and few topics we both know enough about to have a decent conversation. So we talk about DC and the pets, and bemoan the state of the world and make fart jokes. Maybe this is as good as it gets.

I think my relationship is heading the same way, apart from the fact jokes!

I don’t blame him really. Can you go out with friends?

Do you love him?