When can I ask them to be quiet

[Brunomars65]

My next door neighbour is having a party (terrace houses)
Its really noisy. I know obviously it is, its a party. But the music is so loud, people singing, banging. They are also out the front of the house drinking, smoking, getting in cars, talking really loud.
This obviously isnt their fault, its just bad timing but my mum has just died, it was her funeral yesterday and I'm so exhausted. I havent slept properly in weeks. When can I ask for at least the music to be turned down a bit? 11pm?

midnight.

Sorry for your loss though.

Oh god really. My head is banging.

If its a one off I don't think its fair to say anything

Yes, sorry I agree with midnight. But be prepared for them to completely ignore your request.

Sorry for your loss. Even if you don't get much sleep tonight hope you can catch up over the weekend.

11pm to keep the noise down is reasonable.

I'd knock at 11pm, politely explain the circumstances, and just ask them to keep the noise down so you can sleep.

Sorry for your loss.

Do you have earplugs?

Your council website should have noise related info to tell you what time is considered reasonable. That's not to say they'll comply but I would hope they will realise that not everyone wants to be listening to their party regardless of circumstances.

I'm really sorry for your loss.

I would leave it. Its just a one off. Just try and get some sleep or use the time to scroll online. Not worth issues with them. X

Have you got anything to improvise ear defenders? Headphones + thick scarf?
Earpods playing white noise?
Put on Classic FM calm? Or the pet classics to help pets with fireworks?
I'm really sorry you're going through this. I hope you get some rest soon ❤️

Can you make your own thread please

Agree with others, if it is genuinely a one off I would just deal with it. Sorry for your loss.

Truly sorry for your loss and yeah, rotten timing.
If not often with their parties, I don't think asking them will get you anywhere, sad to say.
Any chance you can stay somewhere for the night?
Go easy and sending hugs over MN.

Sorry for your loss, but agree with PP as a one off I think you have to crank up some white noise and let it go.

Pervert spamming multiple threads.
Reported.

Thanks all. Tried earplugs but I struggle to sleep with them in as not comfy. The music has just been switched off 🙏

Sorry for your loss but it it’s a one off you really can’t anything

Erm yes it is their fault! I also live in a small, terraced house and would never inflict this on my neighbours. Not on my birthday, not on NYE, not on a bank holiday.

Never.

It's called being a decent, considerate person. Unfortunately it's no longer a common thing. Your neighbours are pricks. Sorry for your loss x

I hope you got some sleep in the end @Brunomars65

I personally don't think it's ever OK to make so much noise that it stops neighbours from sleeping. Even as a one-off. Seems to be a minority opinion on mumsnet though.

I completely agree. If you live in close quarters, you just don’t get to make that much noise.

I disagree- homes are for living in, and in my world that includes celebrating in them. Not every weekend or even that regularly, but I would expect to be able to have a celebration for a special occasion if I wanted to.