Is kids coming round annoying?

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Live in a fairly friendly neighbourhood community. We have a WhatsApp, often chat on dog walks, people participate in issues in the chat-mainly moaning things! but I've always helped if needed.
Three families are organising for our children to go around the houses for trick or treat. I sent a message on the neighbourhood Whatsapp asking nicely, saying one of us would quickly deliver sweets to them beforehand and it's just a quick knock on the door.
The children are very excited, mix of ages, some little ones haven't done it before.
We've had 3 people say yes, others haven't even acknowledged the messages
I'm feeling disappointed tbh

Aibu

To add-pre Dc, there was a little group who did the same and even though we didn't have kids, we gladly participated-was a minute if that and nice for the kids

I'm sorry but I think you've overstepped here. Delivering the sweets makes it sounds like you announced it as a done deal, forcing people to participate. It would have been better to just give people the heads up you'd be trick or treating and to let you know if they'd rather you don't knock.

And I say that as someone who loves receiving trick or treaters by the way. I just wouldn't feel comfortable with someone telling me it would be happening and that they'd be delivering the sweets.

Are there many kids in your community? Our entire village participates in trick or treating here. The general rule is that you can only knock at houses with pumpkins outside. I have 100's of sweets at the ready, its full on and exhausting but the kids love it

I do think you’re overstepping. I trick or treat with my son and also answer the door but telling people you’ll deliver sweets is a bit weird. Let people decide if they want to open their door or not and if they don’t, just give your kids more sweet. It feels like you’re telling them what you want to happen rather than giving them a choice

I don’t understand, what do you mean you’ll deliver sweets?

Usually the kids knock on the door, say trick or treat and get given sweets.

It's accepted practice in our village, that only houses which have Halloween decorations are approached for trick or treating, and they provide their own sweets.

So what is going to happen is that a group of teenagers will go to the houses you've delivered sweets to, take all the sweets and leave you with none.

I agree with this I’m afraid. We have a street WhatsApp too and I let people know that we won’t come to any undecorated houses. Several of them say they will leave a ‘help yourself’ box outside the house, and the ones that are happy for us to come to the door make it clear. No one needs me to deliver them sweets, that just feels a bit odd. If they want to do it, they’ll get their own sweets. Just go to a different street if your own doesn’t want to.

Yea, it can be annoying. I'm sometimes in the mood for it and sometimes very much not. It is highly unreasonable to pout and act entitled if people don't want trick or treaters.

It’s a weird request. People who want to be there for trick or treaters do it by buying their own sweets, decorating their houses and making it clear they’re happy to be visited. The ones who don’t, turn their lights off and don’t decorate.

It’s pretty weird to say ‘We’ll give you sweets so we can visit you with our children at Halloween’. It feels weirdly coercive. Why not do the usual thing and just go around the decorated houses nearby?

?? No, I asked on the WhatsApp if anyone 'Does' want to participate (as in basically open the door) to let me know and we will pop the sweets around beforehand to hand out, as in they don't need to buy

Usually no, we're abroad so it's not a massively done thing, but this year we've managed to get a group of 10 kids doing it

I would hate this.

If you want willing participants you should say that children will only go to houses with a pumpkin outside.

Fair enough, I guess you've had your answer from them and not many people want to participate. I still think the offer of supplying the sweets is odd though.

Well if that's the case, you should have said that in your OP.

No one does that where we are and to not be cheeky and expect them to get some, I offered to get sweets for those who did want to participate

I wouldn't want to say no I'm not participating on the group and be picked on as a grump. So I'd just ignore it, not decorate and not answer the door. I'm really not into trick or treating and don't want to have to keep getting up to answer the door. Do what you like, but I wouldn't want my evening disrupted several times to entertain other people's DCs.

That’s odd.

No, no one will go round it's not a done thing

Supplying the sweets is a bit odd and confusing, which might be why you aren’t getting replies.

But it’s not annoying no, I’m all stocked up and expecting at least 100 children round my door on Saturday night

Why are you trying to force something that clearly doesn’t happen in the country your in 🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️

So what’s the issue then? Some have said they want to and some dont.

There aren't any

Which country is this? Id suggest making a little party at home or do a trunk and treat like in the states?