My dad recently stepped back as General Manager of the large family business and handed over responsibility for things to me and my sisters. The idea was an equal three way split, but that could change.
Now he's decided he'd like to spend more time with family, which is lovely in theory. The problem is that when he visits, he doesn't come alone. He rocks up with (literally) an entourage of friends, inlaws and long-term hangers-on. Think less "Dad popping round for a weekend" and more "small travelling conference".
They eat, drink, make noise at all hours, park everywhere, and generally expect the house to function as Las Vegas hotel. There's a pervy guy I barely know who leers at me.
I can't cope but when I gently suggested that perhaps the numbers could be scaled back a bit, Dad took it very badly. Apparently this means I don't appreciate everything he's done for me and am being disrespectful after all the opportunities he's given us.
For context, one of my sisters is very good at telling him exactly what he wants to hear. Another tends to agree with whoever spoke last. I've always been more of a "tell the truth and deal with the consequences" person.
Now some relatives are saying I'm unreasonable and that family should always be welcome, while others privately admit they wouldn't want a hundred effing people descending on their house indefinitely either.
I don't think he understands me and I fear telling him straight could end in tragedy and I'll be a goner.
Should I keep things cordial and just smile, say how wonderful he is, and make room for them all, (YABU) or battle it out and stand my ground? (YANBU).