On holiday with family. How would you cope with yours?

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I am overseas on a luxury holiday with my two sisters, their husbands and children and my own two children (I have no partner, and all of our children are teens). I am very lucky to be here and am having a perfectly nice time. We’re away for one week in total, back home on Saturday.
I’m 52, menopausal and fairly introverted. Despite being in paradise (pretty much), I think I’ll be ready to go home on Saturday.
I do feel a bit like the odd one out. I feel ridiculous for saying this as they’re my sisters, and we love each other! But they live close together, see each other regularly and socialise as couples. Their kids are also much more at ease with each other than with mine. We made an effort to get them together when they were little and one or more of us was on maternity leave or working part-time, but it fell by the wayside a bit as they got older and life took over. I feel bad for not being as close to my niece and nephews as I could be. My sisters and their husbands are fantastic people, but bigger drinkers than I am and more sociable. I feel under pressure sharing a room with my kids (I am absolutely over doing that, if I’m honest, but it was the only way we could afford to come) and seeing other people every day. I feel sad that I’m like the odd one out, but understand that it’s my own fault.
I don’t know why I have written this post. Maybe someone can relate to how I feel? Don’t get me wrong, I can appreciate that this is a lovely holiday and I am enjoying it for the most part. But I have come to the conclusion that solo holidays are probably more my thing.
I was also sick last night and the others didn’t check in with me to see how I was. I wouldn’t do that to them, particularly if they didn’t have a partner to look after them.
Ohhh, somebody please just give me a gentle kick up the arse 😁 I may well regret this when I’m back to holiday washing and working full-time next week. But I honestly can’t say I’m dreading going home at all.
To conclude, I love my family and we get on perfectly well. This is a lovely holiday. But I’m not sure me or my kids are enhancing anyone’s experience by being here.
AIBU?

I should add that other than sleep, they are spending every waking moment together. So am I for the most part, but will take myself off for the occasional nap or whatever. I am trying!

I couldn't cope with going away with my family like this! We did a 3 generation thing a couple of times with my parents and DB & family and it never ends well. I think also if you're not used to living with so many people you reach a point where you just need your own space and some quiet!

Thank you for understanding!
I think I feel a certain amount of guilt for feeling this way.
And they are good people. I just feel like I’m masking a lot and trying to be the person they want me to be, or the person I feel I should be for them.

In these groups holiday situations I've noticed a lot of the introverts will find a way to get a bit of quiet time every day, e.g going to the shop to get something that we don't really need, finding a hidden spot in the garden with a book, a solo walk/run, disappearing off to do their physio exercises...

I am 45 and can only tolerate going away with my DH and our teenagers. Thought I was missing out by not going away on girls holidays so went on one a couple of years ago and I hated it. I have another friend who frequently asks to go away for a weekend and I just can't.

I did this on my one and only girls holiday. I always got up early and took myself to the shops.

I am an introvert and prefer to holiday solo or with my adult DC.

I do have friends I will go away with for a few days, but they know I need alone time and don’t take it as a slight.

I imagine your sisters are well aware you need time alone to recharge. I would try not to overthink it.

I cope with my extended family by not going on holiday with them. I'd hate it.

I'd be exactly the same as you OP.

My in laws are lovely but I struggle on holiday with them. We do big shared house weekends occasionally and I shut myself in the kitchen and do all the cooking to get a but of time to myself. Get very stressed if people come in and help me!

Did they also plan the holiday?

I think it's perfectly healthy and normal to acknowledge that you are different from your sisters and this sort of holiday doesn't suit you. It sound like your teens may also be different from the other teens on holiday with you. In your position I think I'd probably check in with my DC to gently see how they are feeling about being around the other families constantly. They may also be wishing they could have a few hours without the others. Could you maybe invent an errand you (with or without your DC) need to go on, or somewhere you want to visit that you know wouldn't appeal to the others? Or how would they be if you just acknowledged it and said you'd just like a day to spend time just you and your DC?
I can happily spend a week in the company of my DH and teens 24/7, but hate having to be with anyone else all the time. I think partly that's because DH, DC and I are all quite similar and even if we are in the same room/apartment will take some time to do our own thing (even if it's just reading, watching a video, having a bath etc).

I love my sister and her husband and kids. And I love my in laws too - we get on really well. I wouldn't dream of spending a holiday with them - way too much togetherness for me! Live and learn OP.

I get on fine with my sisters (who live abroad) but a week is enough! Just had one visiting (she left Tuesday but will be back for ten days). Actually two of us get on better in that we are more similar and one is the odd one out. I was married (widow now) with two kids, my other sister has one, but my older does not. It can be tricky at the best of times! Her energy level is higher than mine - going for an hour and a half walk in the morning then coming back and wanting to go out to this that and the other. A bit critical too (laundry detergent smells too strong, machine takes too long, my cats are too thin yet I feed them too much)! I’m happy to have my house back.

Just on one point, if I had gone away with my brother and SIL and then became ill I can’t imagine that they would not check on me to make sure I was OK!
I wonder if that then resonated with you, I think it would make me feel quite alone.

It might never end well for you, but it has certainly worked for us over the past 30 years. 3 generation holidays can be brilliant. Long may they continue!

I'm an ambivert and wouldn't spend every waking moment with anyone! I always find something that other people don't want to do, or something solo.