I would start by saying i love my dh dearly, we have a young child together and i have a teen from a previous relationship. We have been together nearly 10 years and he provides for us all and is generally a good dh/father - he can be lazy and much of the housework, kids and life admin falls on me but he provides in other ways and our family unit means more to me than anything.
However i really feel like the spark has truly gone from our marriage. We are more like housemates who sit together and watch shit tv on an evening and run a house/family together. The main reason for this is lack of sex. He has always had a lower sex drive than me as well as some erectile issues but just recently it appears to have been taken off the table altogether with no communication other than “i’m just not in the mood lately”. He can be tactile and loving but it’s not the same as an intimate relationship and i really miss it. I would initiate more but im so sick of feeling rejected and like hes only doing it out of obligation.
We so rarely get time alone since we had our youngest as we have no family support and we have definitely fallen into a rut of not making proper time for one another. Even small things like how he used to text or call me at lunch just to see how my day was have fallen by the wayside. I really need some ideas of how to reignite things. I think the sex issue is potentially quite tricky as mismatched sex drives are nobody’s fault but can cause serious issues and resentment. Any ideas so appreciated.