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firebrand123 · 06/10/2026 16:42

This is quite a trivial one but it's bugging me!

There's a man I worked with at a previous employer. We only actually worked vaguely together for a few months before I left and we briefly spoke a couple of times after that as we are in similar roles, but we've not spoken for over 3 years. We were acquaintances, not friends. He was made redundant and out of a role for ages so when I spotted on LinkedIn that he had a new job finally I "liked" his post. He then messages me and literally all it says is "who is this corporate imposter in your profile picture!?!? 😛"

The profile picture is a headshot my current employer did. It's been my LinkedIn profile photo for maybe a year or more. I really like it, and I never say that about photos. I'm wearing a simple blazer and t-shirt and just a fairly standard level of makeup, so I just look smart really.

Is that an odd message to send, given the context? I have no idea what to respond with. Is he saying I wasn't professional when he knew me? It was a more casual workplace but he knows I work in the city in a more formal environment now....

Like I say, it's a trivial one, but it's nagging me a bit!

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CleverlyBeery · 06/10/2026 16:43

He's just saying you look smart and probably trying to break the ice. I wouldn't think anything of it!

Yogafiend · 06/10/2026 16:45

I agree with pp. it looks like he was just trying to engage with you.

firebrand123 · 06/10/2026 16:46

Ok, I guess it's my insecurities coming out then! It's just very different to any previous interactions we've had, which were years ago, so I suppose I over thought it.

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FayeLP · 06/10/2026 16:46

That’s just a friendly message joking about you having a very corporate photo - I wouldn’t read too much into it

GoodGirlFaith · 06/10/2026 16:47

Seriously?! He is pleased to hear from you and commenting that you look really smart. That's all!

rwalker · 06/10/2026 16:47

I read it as a compliment

firebrand123 · 06/10/2026 16:48

GoodGirlFaith · 06/10/2026 16:47

Seriously?! He is pleased to hear from you and commenting that you look really smart. That's all!

I guess neither of these are things I'm used to! I'm happy to admit I can be oversensitive so I appreciate the responses

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SecretSquid · 06/10/2026 16:48

Don't see anything offensive tbh.

zoeslim · 06/10/2026 16:48

Good gods he is making a joke
You must be such fun at a party!

pinkdelight · 06/10/2026 17:03

The punctuation and emojis are clear it’s a joke. Just put lol if anything. Don’t overthink.

seahorsessky · 06/10/2026 17:04

It's just a joke, as others say.

BrilliantBetty · 06/10/2026 17:07

Friendly message.

shhblackbag · 06/10/2026 17:08

It's a friendly message. He's joking, OP.

firebrand123 · 06/10/2026 17:10

Thanks everyone!

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