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Given the sexual assault statistics we need to move back to single sex schools

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jeaux90 · 06/10/2026 10:15

https://www.theguardian.com/education/2026/oct/04/child-on-child-sexual-abuse-schools-england-and-wales

We could have a debate about the causes of course but the current government won’t ban porn for example so my view, we need to completely segregate at secondary school now if the government is serious about stopping VAWG.

Thousands of child-on-child sexual offences reported at schools in England and Wales

Exclusive: Average of nearly five sexual crimes a day against under-13s were reported to police between 2021 and 2025

https://www.theguardian.com/education/2026/oct/04/child-on-child-sexual-abuse-schools-england-and-wales

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AgeingMillennial · 06/10/2026 10:16

YANBU studies persistently show it’s better for girls to be in single sex schools. I loved mine. Will do the same for DD.

jeaux90 · 06/10/2026 10:20

@AgeingMillenniali did for my DD too. Mixed primary, single sex for secondary then she went mixed for college/sixth honestly I think it’s the only way now given how horrendous this is getting.

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PrincessOfPreschool · 06/10/2026 10:23

YABU.
It is terrible but I think many kids (boys mostly) will find a way and some of the assaults will likely be a lot worse if they're off school premises.

At least within school there are probably more witnesses and more people really available to report incidents to. They are busy places unlike parks, walks home from school, alleyways in town, parties in people's houses etc.

Seeline · 06/10/2026 10:24

I'm a great believer in single sex education - especially for girls.

However, it is really important to get the right ethos in both sets of schools.
I think girls can really benefit from not having to compete against boys in STEM subjects, being taught with a 'can do anything ' attitude, as well as treating everyone with consideration
Equally boys need to be taught consideration, without the alpha male attitude that often comes to the surface in all-male environments.

PrincessOfPreschool · 06/10/2026 10:25

My DD has been in a mixed sex school all her life and never been sexually assaulted. Her friend was assaulted but this was in someone's house.

jeaux90 · 06/10/2026 10:25

@PrincessOfPreschoolso you think because it happens anyway girls are not entitled to a safe educational environment? Sorry but that logic is effing nuts.

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PrincessOfPreschool · 06/10/2026 10:26

(Ps. DD now in Y13)

MeowDoku · 06/10/2026 10:26

I have a son but would prefer he goes to an all boys school, but the only options around us are selective grammars, he is very bright but neurodivergent so I'm not convinced he will manage the 11+

AgeingMillennial · 06/10/2026 10:27

PrincessOfPreschool · 06/10/2026 10:23

YABU.
It is terrible but I think many kids (boys mostly) will find a way and some of the assaults will likely be a lot worse if they're off school premises.

At least within school there are probably more witnesses and more people really available to report incidents to. They are busy places unlike parks, walks home from school, alleyways in town, parties in people's houses etc.

What?! ‘They’ll sexually assault them anyway so let’s leave them with their attackers for 7 hours a day’ are you okay?

Lacksie · 06/10/2026 10:28

Is this Afghanistan under the Taliban?

I can't anymore with this extremist variety of "feminism".

Thepeopleversuswork · 06/10/2026 10:28

My DD is in a single sex school and I firmly believe its better for girls (though probably less so for boys). Teenage girls do much better without being subjected to the behaviour of teenage boys generally, and that's not just limited to sexual assault, it's more the way boys try to dominate things and put girls down in so many ways.

The sexual assault stuff is horrifying but in a way it's a lesser concern for me than the impact on girls' confidence that boys can have at that age.

Older girls (16 and up) might benefit from some contact with boys at sixth form or above but I see no upside to mixed sex schooling during puberty.

PrincessOfPreschool · 06/10/2026 10:31

jeaux90 · 06/10/2026 10:25

@PrincessOfPreschoolso you think because it happens anyway girls are not entitled to a safe educational environment? Sorry but that logic is effing nuts.

No. I think it's safer if it happens in an educational environment and you're pushing it to happen in other much more unsafe environments.

I also think single sex schools can be very unsafe emotionally. The only one in our area (girls) has a terrible reputation for bullying, unkindness, ostracism and competitiveness. Most kids flock out of it to other sixth forms even though it's 'the grammar'. Schools need to deal with sexual safety and emotional safety and trying to get rid of the problem by making all schools single sex isn't going to work.

Blankitout · 06/10/2026 10:32

I'm in 2 minds about this.
I know girls do better academically in single sex schools. But as someone who many many years ago attended a single sex Grammar School from age 11 to 18 I know it didn't me at all for interacting with boys and men as a young adult.
Having said that given what appears to be an almost total.l breakdown in any decent codes of behaviour as far as a lot of teenagers are concerned I can see the attraction of wanting segregation.

mindutopia · 06/10/2026 10:33

I went to a single sex school. I was sexually abused as a child and have been sexually assaulted as an adult. None of that happened at school. 🤷🏻‍♀️I think school is often a safe haven for children who have difficult home lives. I don’t disagree that single sex education for girls is better (I love my school), but it’s not going to change the risk to women and girls in their homes, jobs, the pub, on the train, etc.

PrincessOfPreschool · 06/10/2026 10:36

AgeingMillennial · 06/10/2026 10:27

What?! ‘They’ll sexually assault them anyway so let’s leave them with their attackers for 7 hours a day’ are you okay?

I have 2 boys (now adult) and know very many others who have never been involved in any sexual assaults. Are you actually labelling all boys predators? As I said, predators will prey. Better for it to be in a safer, more controlled environment which can be dealt with. I really don't want to minimise but I don't think pushing these assaults into alleys and bedrooms is going to help any girl.

millit · 06/10/2026 10:36

My siblings and I all went to single-sex schools and, interestingly, we have all chosen mixed schools for our own children.

I don’t think segregation is the answer. I think boys and girls need to grow up learning to respect one another and, crucially, learning that they can have perfectly normal friendships with the opposite sex.
My experience of an all-girls school certainly wasn’t that removing boys created some wonderfully healthy environment. The girls were on the whole absolutely boy-obsessed. There was a constant competition over who had done what with a boy and, if anything, quite a lot of pressure to be sexually experienced because that gave you status. The boys from the local boys’ school became this huge focus precisely because we had so little normal interaction with boys.
I moved to a mixed school for sixth form and it was a breath of fresh air. For the first time I realised you could just be friends with a boy without wondering whether he fancied you, or feeling that every interaction between boys and girls had to have some romantic or sexual significance.
Until then boys had seemed like a completely different species and, frankly, quite intimidating. I imagine plenty of boys from all-boys schools felt similarly about girls.
Obviously schools need to take sexual harassment and assault extremely seriously, but I’m not convinced the answer is to separate boys and girls from one another. Surely part of preparing children for adult life is teaching them how to coexist, respect boundaries and see the opposite sex as ordinary human beings rather than something mysterious, threatening or primarily sexual.

dizzydizzydizzy · 06/10/2026 10:37

i think you are forgetting something OP, a lot of this is a result of online life and happens online too, so
physically separately the sexes during school hours won’t change this. In fact, I even wonder if it could make matters worse because girls and boys do need to learn how to get along and interact because that is part of normal life.

i do agree that we need much more radical
action though. I would think it needs to be around online harms, such as preventing children from
accessing porn and misonogystic influencers.

The article is extremely alarming, so thank you for bringing it to my attention.

ifone · 06/10/2026 10:38

Disagree. Boys in all boys schools are less likely to see girls as regular people. Life is mixed, schools need to be too.

Would you rather an 18 year old starts uni never having sat beside a girl in school?

Pinkflamingo10 · 06/10/2026 10:38

I was in single sex girls school from 4-18. I have no brothers and neither do my 3 closest school friends.
we graduated and went to uni with zero clue about boys, how to talk to one, what to be wary of etc etc

EmeraldShamrock000 · 06/10/2026 10:39

I disagree.
It must be tackled with education, hard hitting truths on the reality of the after effects on the victim. Addressing pre pressure within a male groups, Examples on what to do if you are invited to rape. I realise the last one is way out there but given the young men who were invited to take that girl and none thought to call the police.
My DD is in a mixed school. The majority of her friends are boys. They are a lovely group of lads. They’ve been friends since the start. This is their last year.
Segregation won’t stop this.
I am sick seeing women being murdered every day, raped, assaulted. It’s out of control.
It is time for the hard hitting advertisements to be shown again.

climbintheback · 06/10/2026 10:40

Great idea!

MsMoody · 06/10/2026 10:43

The Guardian blames "rapid societal changes." Perhaps we could reverse these instead of segregating by sex?

Ablondiebutagoody · 06/10/2026 10:44

We should implement sharia law

Erin1975 · 06/10/2026 10:45

I don't dispute the figures quoted in that article, but do people really think the problem is worse now than it was say 30 years ago or is it just that these sort of offences are being reported and recorded more nowadays.

In my expereience of school in the 80s/90s this sort of offence certainly happened. It is not a new phenomena, but it would never have been reported to a school or the police unless something really serious happened.

Greenfinch7 · 06/10/2026 10:46

People need to learn to deal with one another and treat one another with respect. Segregation by sex feels wrong and unnatural to me in such an important place as school.

The atmosphere in boys schools is often misogynistic and aggressive. My boys and my girl were all at single sex schools in secondary, and then transferred to coed because they were unhappy. Coed was infinitely better and they all were able to make friends of both sexes.