misogyny and teen boys Aibu to ask how I can raise my boys right.

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This conversation started when I asked my dd14 about any violence she sees at her school. She said apart from a few low level fights and boys generally play fighting etc it's not something she sees often. So all good or so I thought.
The level of misogyny at her school is shocking.
Everyday girls are being called sluts
Boys are telling girls they are no good at sports/stem subjects.
One of the most heartbreaking one was when during pe her class were playing football and dd managed to score a goal. One of the boys told her to go back into the kitchen.
The hardest part for me is how I managed to miss this. Dd used to have all male friends but the past year now has a all female friendship group. She no longer plays football at lunch at school.
The signs were there but I didn't join the dots 😕

I have two boys ages 7 and 10. I will rasie them right.

Not having them around toxic sexist men seems to be a massive help. A lot of crap filters down to sons / grandsons / nephews.

Pull them up every single time they say anything out of line, use 'karen' or 'bitch' or 'dumb blonde' or similar. Talk to them about why women (and their female peers) may feel less safe or able than they do to do certain things and what they can do to help. Most of all, teach them to be string enough to call their male peers out on 'jokes' or banter or outright misogyny.

Use parental controls like Qustodio (we use the paid-for version and it's well worth it) to keep track of what they're watching online. Misogynistic attitudes were picked up from porn and unhelpful YouTube videos here before we had a handle on content filters.

If this happened at my school, the boys would be sanctioned for those comments and the incident logged.

I think its as much about what they see men in their lives doing, whether that's dad's, uncles or their friends.

Try not to worry too much about the other boys. They'll either 1) grow out of it 2) be moaning that noone wants them when they're adults or 3) carry on as they are and impregnate some poor woman who doesn't challenge it

Yikes I can't imagine DS10 telling a girl to go back in the kitchen after scoring a goal at football - one of his best mates is on a girls football team.

The one thing DH and I keep reminding him of though is to more conscious of the fact he is getting bigger...he still wants lots of hugs/to lie right next to us on the sofa etc but he's not very gentle and you always somehow get impaled by an elbow/chin.