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Dishonest mothers help or am I to blame?

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Newmama2222 · 18/09/2026 17:57

Hired “mothers help” on a temp basis. We agreed on self employment. After being sick she is now requesting almost full pay for the days she was sick ,hol pay and pretending we agreed she’d be an employee. She’s been sending her hrs at the end of each week and I’ve been paying net with no deductions.
i am not against setting her up as an employee / worker but I now feel I’m lacking in trusting her as she’s been taking the over payments under the agreement she’d do her own taxes and now is pretending she thought I would do these my end on top. She’s also pressuring me to pay her almost full wage for the days she’s had off this week. She is already employed by another family and I know full well she was working there FT while not with me this week. Feel like I’m being taken for a ride AIBU?

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Smallpoxy · Today 09:13

Newmama2222 · 18/09/2026 18:04

@VeneziaJ no contract, hardly anything in writing. She is now pretending we agreed a higher day rate and that she expected over her gross day rate as net (I paid her tips as well so over her gross hourly rate) really feel so shocked. Am I f*d with no contract?! She sent me her hourly rate over message and I never said anything about payment her over this.

No contract? Just let her go. Don't engage with her.

CrazyCatLady2026 · Today 09:19

Get tid and report her for tax fraud.

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