AIBU to not want anymore holidays / mini breaks with my 16 Yr old DD?

[CelestialCandyfloss]

Am I unreasonable to not want to go on holiday with my DD anymore, or even go for mini breaks? She is 16 on Sunday, and I've organised for us to go for a weekend away in a caravan with her best friend and me and her. I'm a single mum.
We are leaving immediately after school tomorrow, its about an hours drive, so not that far but I dislike driving and have to force myself.
So far, she won't get anything ready to pack. She won't help me get the suitcase out of her cupboard in her room. She won't do anything to help me out even though I was pretty late home from work. She's been on two holidays (one with me, one with other family) this summer and we went abroad at Easter, and all she does is whinge and whine. I'm quite sick of spending money just to be moaned at.
Am I being unreasonable to not want to go on mini breaks or holiday with her anymore after this one ? (At least until she resembles a civilised human being again!)

Hmm yes I can relate to this. It’s one thing (and completely normal at 16) being rubbish at getting ready to go but if she’s also not happy once you get there then yes I agree. Though I suspect she’ll have a great time this time as she has a friend with her.

I’m a single parent too and it took so much to be able to afford a holiday (I still have one sitting on a credit card from 2 years ago - I know!) that it feels like there is even more pressure on it for it to be great - because of the sacrifices you had to make for it to happen in the first place.

I’d see how this one goes and if it’s more of the same then save up your money next time for a treat just for you.

Not that it helps much but DD is now 18 and has turned back into a pleasant and helpful individual- good company but yes at that aged I wished I hadn’t bothered half the time. You can always pick it back up - your trips are not gone forever.

Thank you, I'm glad it's not me being horrible. I've been a single mum since DD was 6 months old and honestly, 15 has been the absolute worst hardest year in my parenting career lol. I totally relate re the saving hard and wanting it to be 'perfect '...I've lowered my expectations A LOT but basic manners and not whinging all the time should be the bare minimum. Its so awful when they weren't like that whwn they were younger!!