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To assume this parent is no longer interested

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Pioneerofaerodynamics · 07/09/2026 09:39

I am a part-time tutor alongside my other job (I used to be a teacher full-time) and I tutored a boy in Maths last academic year.
Admittedly it wasn't the easiest as he was quite disengaged and not always the best behaviour, tried to make the lessons varied with videos, quizzes etc. And the book we followed was interactive.

A few months ago the Mum told me he 'had improved a bit' in Maths. Fast forward to the end of the academic year and she told me he was still at 'working towards' in Maths according to his report (in year 7). In the very last lesson she just said 'have a great summer' with no mention of September arrangements.
Schools started back last week on different days and I haven't heard a word from her. Can I assume she's no longer interested or would you contact her? Just thought I'd have heard something.

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fiorentina · 07/09/2026 09:42

Do you not contact her to arrange payment?
We pay a month up front so I heard from ours late August with her invoice?

Dorasdoor · 07/09/2026 09:43

You’ll hear from her if she’s interested. She mightn’t have got around to it yet though.
Or she might have felt her DS didn’t see a benefit.

If you need to know where you stand regarding keeping time available for him then contact her.

ACynicalDad · 07/09/2026 09:44

If you want to teach him, you have the space and want the cash no problem with dropping a line. If you don't want to teach him, don't need the cash and lack the time make a call and don't. There's not a right answer.

FruAashild · 07/09/2026 09:46

I think it's reasonable to contact her to suggest a plan for the following year. I think you should have done it in early Auguest though.

ComtesseDeSpair · 07/09/2026 10:14

I’d just send a brief note setting out your availability for the term ahead and then leave it with her. It’s the start of the new school year, it may simply not have been the first thing on her mind, or she may be waiting to see what her DS’s progression is like with a new teacher and new year’s curriculum before deciding whether or not he still requires extra tuition.

OutOfTheOtherSide · 07/09/2026 11:29

Why haven't you contacted her already? This is a business for you, you can't sit around waiting. You should have asked her at the end of last term and, if she said no, spent some time actively looking for new work to replace this lost customer. If you don't need/want the work then all that I have just said is irrelevant but if you do, you need to be much more proactive.

Pioneerofaerodynamics · 07/09/2026 14:43

Messaged and they aren't it turns out, just got a generic excuse back.

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