Procrastination overwhelmed teens & adult with autism WIBU to send this book? Dana K White

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Dana K White has written a lot about decluttering and I find her approach profoundly helpful. I heard a lot of people with ADHD make meaningful progress with her methods.

She's got a new book coming out about Procrastination and it sounds as if it might be relevant for people who are feeling overwhelmed by something that feels really important (like school work or job hunting maybe).

Someone, who has autism, in my extended family has been suffering from massive stress and has almost shut down through feeling overwhelmed. I want to support them but don't want to add to the burden. Dana's all about hope and very positive, so I doubt reading it would feel like a telling off but would it be encouraging to be given a book about overcoming procrastination?

WIBU to preorder it for others? If you have Autism/ADHD or have a young person who's stuck procrastinating about things they want to do would it be a welcome gift?

I’d be furious if I received this. I don’t care if the content is upbeat I’d find the fact they’d sent it patronising and judgemental.

At best in conversation just drop in you’ve read this book and it helped you, but don’t proactively recommend it

That is very interesting @Credittocress thank you for being so frank!

What did you find most helpful at that point of overwhelm?

This is such a compassionate way to look at supporting someone who feels overwhelmed. The right tools can create a sense of hope and progress without adding pressure. Sometimes, understanding and encouragement are the first steps towards meaningful change.

I agree with @Credittocress. I think someone receiving this would find it patronising and judgmental while being another thing they’re now expected to do. I wouldn’t expect it ever to be opened so don’t think it would help.

I do like Dana K White and have found her videos and books useful myself but I think someone would have to come to it themselves - not be given it.

Agree with all of this.

You're taking a huge chance if you just send it.

Oh god, my MIL does this. Don't be her, it's awful. I feel so judged. She does it to her grandchildren as well and it drives them crazy.

Buy it for yourself, read it, see if it seems applicable and offer to loan it if you really must.

I have autism and ADHD and hugely struggle with procrastination. It wouldn’t offend me to receive the book, but I would feel pressure to read it and anxious that you would be expecting me to put it into practice and improve. Pressure and anxiety are the two things that make my procrastination worse, so realistically I would probably procrastinate reading the book and it would be another thing to feel guilt and shame about every time I saw it unread on the bookshelf. It’s unlikely I’d ever actually read it and I would probably try and avoid seeing you in case you asked me about it.

I think it could be a really thoughtful gift if it’s given with warmth and no pressure attached. For someone who already feels overwhelmed, the key is making it feel like support and hope, not another thing they’re expected to “fix.”

I think it sounds kindly meant but there is a high risk of it not being well received.

Also I have huge procrastination issues and if someone else has bought me the book I would probably just procrastinate about reading it tbh. I would be far more likely to actually read it if I'd bought it for myself.

If you’re close enough to want to support, you’re close enough to ask if they’d like to receive the book.

Sending someone an unsolicited self help book is always a dickish thing to do. When that person is struggling due to a diagnosed condition, it’s even more so.