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To join a gym?

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likelysuspect · 01/09/2026 18:13

Will I go?

Do people go?

Ive never even been inside a gym, I suppose I could go and visit to see how it feels

I dont actually like moving around.

Im an older lady who needs to get some muffin top off. HRT and AD's have done for me. I need to get a stone off I reckon.

Will it be like the countless exercise bikes Ive had over the years which make smashing clothes hangers?

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likelysuspect · 02/09/2026 17:02

Ive got neuropathy and problems with my fine motor control and get tremors if I have gripped or holding something for a long time. So if I carry a heavy bag for example, once ive put it down, I cant control my hands/arms for a bit.

I wonder if this is going to be a problem?

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EntropicalFruit · 02/09/2026 17:15

I'm trying to make the same decision...will I go? I've also never been to a gym before. I do try to do stuff at home, but I'm never sure if I'm doing it correctly or if I'm doing more damage than good. I've got as far as looking up my closest gym. But I've no idea when I would go. There are two classes I could get to. But doing weights in the gym, I don't know if DH would be amused at me going on the weekend, and usually I'm ferrying around the DC at least one day. I'm beginning to notice I'm feeling a bit weak and pathetic, and also having difficulty accepting the muffin top which has appeared out of nowhere.
Just a bit put off by the cost, the closest one is you have to sign up for a year, the next is you have to sign up for a year, give 6 months notice but you can't give notice within 6 months of starting.

KatiePricesKnickers · 02/09/2026 17:36

You are very unlikely to lose any fat by going to the gym.
Losing fat is mostly controlled by diet.
As per PP’s, the gym is for building muscle and stamina.
Lifting weights is great for toning and strength, and great for bone health. Stress those bones!
Everyone in the gym is there to get fit. It’s a common goal.
Obviously there are incredibly fit young people there, but I’m also at PureGym and during the day, especially the mornings, is a very mixed crowd.

No one wants to end up sitting in a puddle of their own piss because they didn’t have the strength to stand up and get to the toilet.

likelysuspect · 02/09/2026 17:38

KatiePricesKnickers · 02/09/2026 17:36

You are very unlikely to lose any fat by going to the gym.
Losing fat is mostly controlled by diet.
As per PP’s, the gym is for building muscle and stamina.
Lifting weights is great for toning and strength, and great for bone health. Stress those bones!
Everyone in the gym is there to get fit. It’s a common goal.
Obviously there are incredibly fit young people there, but I’m also at PureGym and during the day, especially the mornings, is a very mixed crowd.

No one wants to end up sitting in a puddle of their own piss because they didn’t have the strength to stand up and get to the toilet.

Well I work full time so certainly wont be there in the day.

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EmpressaurusKitty · 02/09/2026 17:39

I go to my local Puregym before work 3 mornings a week, so get there just after 6am. It’s normally fairly quiet then.

Bollihobs · 02/09/2026 17:46

I would have said 100% that I "wasn't a gym person" then I actually went.....loved it!

Being amongst others "doing stuff" is motivating, the variety of equipment is enjoyable, in the main I prefer machines to free weights as I feel safer and confident that I'm not "doing it wrong" (ie. using the wrong muscles). Naively I wouldn't have said I was 'unfit', I walked every day, not overweight, but a couple of weeks of going to the gym and the difference was astounding, and very welcome.

Try it, on your own, with a PT or classes - see what suits you.

Edited to add - You may not have a choice of gyms but if you do, do try all those available - the gym I attend is warm and welcoming to all (all well behaved people 😂 no dropping weights or chatting on your phone allowed) and to all ages - one of the chaps who's a regular is 90!!

HeidiLite · 02/09/2026 17:49

I work full time. My gym is open 5AM to11PM. Sometimes I go early mornings, sometimes lunctime when WFH, or on the way home or late in the evening - yesterday was there until 10.30PM. That's the beauty of the weights section, you can be flexible and go whenever it fits your schedule on any given day.

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