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Not sure what to make of this l? Neighbour related

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domly · 31/08/2026 13:52

So last week a picture painted of an English flag was thrown over into my garden by my neighbours child who is about 8/9?

I am non white and I am not really sure what to make of this?

For the record, there is ongoing tension with this particular neighbour.
Issues with her kids trespassing onto my front garden, balls kicked at my front door etc, ongoing noise disturbance.

AIBU to feel annoyed by this? AIBU?

To add there was football related stuff written on it.

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PurplebudsWhitebuds · 31/08/2026 14:29

Well I would be annoyed at anything being thrown into my garden but given the other problems you are having with these neighbours I think you would be justified as seeing this as a deliberate attempt to upset you.
I'm really sorry you are experiencing neighbour problems OP. They can make life very uncomfortable

ShitFacedShakespeare · 31/08/2026 14:31

Did you see them throw it over?

Just wondering if it could've blown over from their garden to yours?

malloryknox123 · 31/08/2026 14:32

Sounds like an immature prank. Best ignored but if it continues then report it to 101

Vulturesoverhead · 31/08/2026 14:33

It’s a loaded racist comment. Of course it is…. even if they are too thick to realise that.

I’d keep a record. These thing are drip drip drip.

domly · 31/08/2026 14:37

I have made a log of all the incidents to the HA and emailed them about the latest incident.

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LakieLady · 31/08/2026 14:44

Glad you reported it, OP. It's important that incidents like this are reported, so that there's a record if an issue persists and the HA want to take action.

Your HA should have an anti-social behaviour policy; if this sort of thing continues, it might be worth looking it up.

whippersnapper55 · 31/08/2026 21:44

Well done for reporting it. Take the painting out and stick it in your bin!

seahorsessky · 31/08/2026 21:54

You said it was football? Our kids (not white) play with these, tops, balls and sometimes some of the relatives have the flags when they watch matches, not that I'd ever let my kids drop anything in the neighbour's garden, even though no one would think it was racist, they shouldn't be disturbing or messing up stuff.

TY78910 · 31/08/2026 22:20

seahorsessky · 31/08/2026 21:54

You said it was football? Our kids (not white) play with these, tops, balls and sometimes some of the relatives have the flags when they watch matches, not that I'd ever let my kids drop anything in the neighbour's garden, even though no one would think it was racist, they shouldn't be disturbing or messing up stuff.

She said there have been items in the past such as football, not that the picture was football related.

I can’t see an innocent explanation for this unfortunately, we are way past the World Cup or an equivalent event where kids just go out and make random flag pictures you could dismiss as one of those things. How old are the kids?

savoycabbage · 31/08/2026 22:45

I’ve been in a situation where we were horrifically abused by our massive racist neighbours so I completely understand.

Having said that what I would do is the next time I saw any of them I’d say ‘one of your Kai’s football pictures ended up in my garden. I’ve put it on my fridge for the next time England are playing’ or something like that.

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