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Partners comments on birthday

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ByNeatOtter · 30/08/2026 20:53

My partner and I were getting ready to go out for dinner in London for my 38th birthday. I bought an outfit (off TikTok shop!) I’ve posted it below.
I was pleased with how I looked in it, and I’d planned it for a week or so (not knowing what the weather was going to be like). I put it on, walked in the room and he said ‘looks like you’re wearing a Mac’ ‘it looks like something your dad has made you wear because he’s made you go out for dinner’ ‘it looks like something my mum would wear’ I was really hurt and it hit my confidence, I said what did you expect I’d wear he said ‘I like tight clothing and crop tops’ I said to him that I’m 38 years old, I’m not wearing clothes like that. My body type is similar to the model - I really hit the roof because I was so annoyed at him - am I being sensitive?

Partners comments on birthday
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nomas · 30/08/2026 20:54

YANBU, He has zero class. Tight clothing and a crop top? Tell him to fuck off!

BigWig78 · 30/08/2026 20:55

My clothes my body my business. Is he a super model himself or a style icon?

Franxi · 30/08/2026 20:55

I don’t think it matters what your age, body type, or the outfit in question is. He was rude and belittling. It’s not going to get better. Do you really want to be with someone who treats you like that?

Stillhot · 30/08/2026 20:55

How long have you been with him? Why was he so shocked at your outfit?

Besidemyselfwithworry · 30/08/2026 20:57

nomas · 30/08/2026 20:54

YANBU, He has zero class. Tight clothing and a crop top? Tell him to fuck off!

This 100%
he sounds vile

RosasDanceRosas · 30/08/2026 20:58

And did he let you choose his outfit based on tightness and croppedness?

Cuppachuchu · 30/08/2026 20:59

Happy birthday.
Give yourself the gift of a new partner, this one is an arse. 🎁

Justmuddlingalong · 30/08/2026 21:00

This time next year, OP...this time next year. 🎂

Tiddlywinkly · 30/08/2026 21:00

The outfit looks classy. You do you.

Wayk · 30/08/2026 21:01

I love it. It looks very dressy. Happy birthday

TwilightSkies · 30/08/2026 21:03

I would bet a lot of money your partner has no style.

The outfit is lovely!

MeSeM · 30/08/2026 21:39

nomas · 30/08/2026 20:54

YANBU, He has zero class. Tight clothing and a crop top? Tell him to fuck off!

Completely concur with you 💚

Pollqueen · 30/08/2026 22:09

That outfit is lovely. Tight clothes and crop tops 😂

Shouldbedoing · 30/08/2026 22:15

Has he shown any other signs of twattiness? My ex was a covert narc and always found a way to spoil birthdays and special occasions - probably because he wasn't the centre of attention.

Peoplemakemedespair · 30/08/2026 22:22

I’d have gone out without him. Sounds like he needs his hard drive checking if he likes his women dressed like 14 year olds

starstar84 · 30/08/2026 22:48

Peoplemakemedespair · 30/08/2026 22:22

I’d have gone out without him. Sounds like he needs his hard drive checking if he likes his women dressed like 14 year olds

Edited

This. He sounds like a paedo. This is what children wear.

starstar84 · 30/08/2026 22:49

Please dump him, I promise he is a horrible human being. People don’t say this, ever, especially on birthdays, unless they’re a nasty piece of shit

You deserve so much better

whippersnapper55 · 30/08/2026 23:05

He sounds like a rude pig 😠 the outfit is great and I bet you look lovely in it. Next time, leave him at home and go out with your friends! Happy birthday 💐

Epdrenching · 30/08/2026 23:07

He's rude as fxxk.
Why are you with such a pig?

TheOstrichIsOnHoliday · 30/08/2026 23:14

I love it. Modern but classy. Crop tops? Dump him so he can go find himself a teenager and you can find yourself someone with a sense of style.

Meteorite87 · 31/08/2026 00:51

Happy Birthday @ByNeatOtter

His comments were ridiculous.
Noted that he expected you to dress to please him on YOUR birthday 🙄

FairCat · 31/08/2026 01:44

The outfit looks great and perfect for a birthday dinner in town. Your partner is a moron, as I'm sure you've worked out already.

SpanThatWorld · 31/08/2026 06:53

"I like tight clothing and cropped tops."
"Then feel free to wear some.

likeitshard · 31/08/2026 07:31

I’d have cancelled and told him to go home. How rude!

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