AIBU to think hotel breakfast in pyjamas is not acceptable?

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AIBU yo think that adults should not arrive at the hotel breakfast in their pyjamas?

we’re staying in a city centre hotel. Nice place- nothing fancy, with breakfast included.

thus morning, 2 young women (prob early 20’s) came down to breakfast wearing short pyjamas, barefoot- clearly just out of bed. They were loud, and not overly polite to the staff either- “where are the plates” etc. just brash and abrupt.

Im generally not a fussy person but this sort of thing feels like a lowering of standards to me. I don’t think we saw stuff like this 10-15 years ago.

AIBU to think that this is not acceptable?

I was going to start this thread myself!

I'm in an international 5 star hotel. Lots of business people. Equivalent UK rack rate £500pn.

I saw 6 women come to breakfast in PJs this morning. Sleep in their eyes still. Messy hair. Hotel slippers on. 1 had the hotel robe undone over her PJs.

It really shocked me this morning!

Shoes in a communal dining area and socks in the room if the carpet is questionable!

Admittedly this was pre-Ryan air packing restrictions but full on slippers and a thick dressing gown and that’s half your case
gone.

I wouldn't do it and I wouldn't let my kids. But.

You're assuming that everyone is showered and in clean fresh clothes. I'm not sure I could get worked up when I have no idea if that nice man in the suit actually wore than I ntbe tube yesterday or of that family with kids have all washed their hands, or if that lovely granny has been out for a cigarette before breakfast.

The poor manners are a far worse crime and I wouldn't care how clean or fancy they were dressed for that

I don't care.
I have gone down to breakfast unwashed in yesterday's clothes.

The women you saw would have been loud and brash regardless of what they were wearing.

I stayed at a hotel this year and saw a sign in the dining room saying no pyjamas. I was shocked that it needed to be said

Shouldn't even be acceptable at a premier Inn tbh. Just because you don't have lots of money doesn't mean you can't have class. My mum was grew up very poor, she wouldn't dream of doing something like this!

It’s utterly vile. Complain to the staff every time. If they do nothing walk out and demand a refund.

That is so OTT.

Depends why they’re in the hotel. I wouldn’t judge those who are at their lowest ebb, eg been housed there by social services or an insurance company.

This is a bit much. Its not revolting. It's more that pj's aren't acceptable in public and hotel breakfast is different from at home breakfast (which you can have in your pjs). Turning up in pj's here, the local shop or the school run / childcare drop off is not acceptable. The hotel should have quietly asked them to go get dressed, but if its a Premier inn or similar all bets are off, if its the hilton I'd complain that I'd take my business elsewhere if standards aren't upheld (but I'm a diamond member and everyone is very well heeled in the diamond breakfast area!).

It depends what time breakfast ends and when checkout is. Parkrun is always 9am and a lot of hotels stop serving breakfast at half ten. There's not always time to shower and wash my hair before breakfast ends.

It shouldn't be acceptable in decent society and surroundings. It's chavvy and shows basic disrespect not only to your surroundings and fellow guests, but to yourself as well.

Yes. It was in Croatia in the 1980s, the staff along with everyone we encountered were at best unfriendly and it was a shock.

@NewHere83 "I don't personally fine a shower before breakfast mandatory. Sometimes I even have my shower in the evening not the morning."

Surely you have a wash of some sort in the morning though?

In what way? Raise your diabolical standards fgs! Not everyone is that scuzzy!

Standards really have fallen right across society, in all walks of life, and in every environment, haven't they?

It is OTT to demand a refund on a hotel stay because your eyes saw some PJs during one small part of your stay.
It is ridiculous.

Just to clarify this "spa hotel" was basically a posh hotel with a pool in a leisure centre type annex which has it's own cafe/bar- the restaurant where breakfast was served was away from this. Smart attire was required at dinner, so why were pyjamas acceptable at breakfast?

Also the bonnets I referred to were silk sleep bonnets, not Jane Austen/Bridgestone style headgear! 😂

Oddly I think this one can cut across classes. I am from working class stock and my family all consider this inappropriate yet I have seen chavvy types and posh types do this in hotels and I don’t mean spa hotels.

I think the pearl clutching aspect is treating a public space like your own home and not showing ‘respect’ to other patrons by bothering to dress in what’s considered an appropriate manner. Is that all a big deal - well, it won’t actually harm anyone will it? Possibly the more harmful angle is that it’s natural to look at what’s incongruous so you might be perceived to be gawking as your brain catches up- not great especially if it’s kids. And also potentially harmful - nightwear is normally designed to be loose and worn without underwear so you may end up seeing more than you would like to see.

I do remember once staying in a Swiss spa hotel where the spa was in the basement so it was expected to go down in the lift from your room in the white robes provided to your room. One day the lift opened at reception level and a group of tourists checking in all turned and pointed at laughed at my husband and I shouting - ‘look they have dressing gowns on!’. I also remember working in China 20 odd years ago and my translator couldn’t wait to drive past a spa building in a big city so he could show me ‘people sitting around in their night clothes’. He was appalled.. It’s all about knowing the social code and adhering to that.

Eww that’s grim and unhygienic

It’s really not. I’m not prepared to view anyone’s PJs. I’ve claimed from a hotel before so hotels clearly agree.

I don't really get the hygiene thing either - they're not sitting down in bare bottoms, although if their pyjama shorts are very short that is a bit eeww.

But I do parkrun and then go to a cafe afterwards, and I suspect I am sweatier than someone who's just got out of bed, especially this summer!

Agreed but wanted to add we’ve paid a lot for a premier inn in Edinburgh - just checked to make sure I wasn’t mistaken - next Saturday double room at Waverley is from £300 and the hub is from £252

What on earth do they need to consider? How did it affect your day? Enough to make a mumsnet post about it too!!

Would I go down to breakfast at a hotel in pjs?
No.

Would I think for a split second that someone wearing pjs in that situation had made an on odd choice?
Yes probably

Would I give it any more thought?
Nope

Would I find it offensive?
No.

Would I judge them harshly?
No?

Would I question how sad my life is that other people’s behaviour which affects nobody impacted me enough to ask other people about it?
Absolutely yes.

Its basically announcing that you can't be bothered to wash before going out in public. Its an incredibly rude way to behave.

Its like when it got in the news that parents were wearing pyjamas to drop their kids off at school, and HTs started to, rightly, speak out against this. And my Guardian reading friends had been told by the Guardian that not bothering to wash and dress before going out in public with your kids was perfectly fine, so they all called me a snob and classist for saying washing and dressing in public is a minimum standard that society should expect.( I come from an impoverished working class area and they were all came from middle class families, natch).