AIBU to think hotel breakfast in pyjamas is not acceptable?

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AIBU yo think that adults should not arrive at the hotel breakfast in their pyjamas?

we’re staying in a city centre hotel. Nice place- nothing fancy, with breakfast included.

thus morning, 2 young women (prob early 20’s) came down to breakfast wearing short pyjamas, barefoot- clearly just out of bed. They were loud, and not overly polite to the staff either- “where are the plates” etc. just brash and abrupt.

Im generally not a fussy person but this sort of thing feels like a lowering of standards to me. I don’t think we saw stuff like this 10-15 years ago.

AIBU to think that this is not acceptable?

Selfish? How is it selfish exactly?

Your problem is with the hotel - if the hotel does not require day clothes in the dining room you can’t be surprised if people turn up in pyjamas or beachwear.

Take it up with the hotel. I’ve honestly only seen this phenomenon on MN so it can’t be that widespread (or I stay in the wrong hotels to witness the spectacle).

Yes thinking about it that is the only time I’ve seen robes in a hotel restaurant but then its a dedicated spa/health farm place and robes were required - not just swimwear.

I would expect a hotel which offered some spa facilities to have the same dress code in the general restaurant that it applied to other residents. A small restaurant inside a spa is a different matter.

I agree, OP, but you'll get the few people on here who see nothing wrong with it.

To me, nightwear is the equivalent of lingerie/underwear - it's not meant to be seen in public. So get dressed in actual clothes.

How hard can that be, fgs?

And if anyone has already said 'Why do you care, who is it hurting?' or one of those desperate old cliches...I've explained above. It's not appropriate in public - it's intimate, often crumpled and unsightly (mine certainly is!) and maybe even sweaty/smelly if it really is yer actual pyjamas/nightie.

What I'd take away is that the people concerned have absolutely NO respect for anyone else.

I think its naff. Not particularly for hygiene reasons (I doubt that outdoor clothing is any cleaner), I just think its low rent.

I remember a few years ago there was a thing when a head asked the parents not to turn up in pyjamas for the school concerts some parents were furious and tried to campaign for all the parents to turn up in pyjamas . It’s just lack of respect.

Oh god get over yourself. If it’s spoiling your experience that’s your loss. I get noise or obnoxious loud chat but clothes have literally no bearing on you at all.

I’ve just been to a smart restaurant for Sunday lunch, wearing crocs. I’m just reserving from toe surgery. I did feel a bit silly.

but at least I didn’t go in my pjs. I’m not sure why it’s wrong to wear pjs but it just feels lazy, like you just can’t be arsed with life!!

But surely you would only catch athletes foot or a verruca if you were barefoot too? Small children should not be sitting or playing on the floor of a restaurant, that is a real h & s hazard for someone carrying hot food or drink.

Speak only for yourself.

Clothes have a massive bearing on me. I pick up all kinds of messages from people's clothes! It's a form of communication and in this case it's saying, with a loud, vulgar, uncovered yawn

"I don't give a shit about anyone else - I couldn't be arsed to get dressed, so here's two fingers to you!".

Apart from the PP who said seeing PJs at breakfast would cause her to vomit.

I think that’s it - it’s just saying you really can’t be arsed.

it’s not terribly ambitious or motivated. Quite depressing.

Why do people have to come across as ambitious or motivated when having breakfast in a hotel? Probably when on holiday, or maybe as a PP said they are in a hotel as emergency accommodation.

Why can't you just enjoy your own time there and, and concentrate on you?

I’m going to be controversial and start a debate here:
For those saying “it’s only clothes what does it matter?”
I say:
It does matter! Why? Because how we dress and present ourselves not only sets the mood for ourselves, but also the atmosphere for others.
Yes, definitely to dress in what we want….to a point. Otherwise why not just say “to hell with it, I’ll wear a thong back bikini to the lawyers office” etc.
I think it’s important to have some basic standards to keep the ambience nice and give others something to dress up for too, otherwise we’ll all get depressed.

@CoffeeCantata I agree (albeit with less passion) about pyjamas, but I don't think sleeping caps are so bad as they are actually covering something up, ie hair which might be messy.

Exactly this!!!
You’ve got it exactly as I was trying to say. PJs are depressing.

We don't need to go back to the days of my grandparents when granddad would come down to breakfast in his own home in a jacket and tie (and he worked outside on the farm) but no-one over the age of 5 should be going to breakfast in a public area in their pyjamas.

YANBU.

But some people were clearly dragged up in a pigsty ...

I usually have my breakfast and then get showered and dressed for the day, especially on business trips
i I don’t wear Pjs but I do chuck on some tracksuit botttoms or flares
I dint give a shit what people wear tbh
Peiple often eat dinner in robes at the spa so I don’t see a difference

Absolute scruffs. I come from as working class a family as you can get. My dad was a fitter in the local factory, and my mum was a part time school cleaner, and we were better brought up than that. I said earlier that standards have dropped everywhere in the country, but looking at some post on this thread, I'm beginning to think there's no standards at all now.

Absolutely. The student hostel in a major European city I took students to for years did not allow PJs etc at breakfast. We warned the students not to try. Every year a couple did. Every year the hotel staff sent them back upstairs and we then had a word with them.

Hotel should have banned them and asked them to get changed, no class and very chavvy.

I agree, although I think on holiday it's safe to slightly lower basic standards. However, pyjamas at a public breakfast is something I would avoid.

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You need to be ambitious and motivated at a hotel breakfast as there is a lot of food to get through.

but seriously, I just don’t know it it matters if you are wearing pjs. It shouldn’t really matter but it somehow does. I try not to judge others but I think I would judge people in pjs in public. It would make me think their house is dirty and smelly and that they eat junk food and don’t wash very often. Just a bit yucky.

Ok @loosingjammermaybe that one isn't great. But if it's reasonably clean/dry then I wouldn't mind.