Am I use to strange ways of dating or is something going on ?

[Fairycake95]

I’m almost starting to think I’m being crazy. I’ve known a guy I’ve been seeing for about 8 months. Life got in the way while we was dating so 2 months of that 8 we wasn’t talking. we started talking consistently again for 3 months. We very rarely speak on the phone, he doesn’t ask any intentional questions to get to know me, he’s very busy and we’ve not once had a conversation about where the relationship is going.

Ive asked him what’s going on as a feel like it’s strange. Usually by now I’ve experienced casual chats about how much you and the other person like eachother and we’ve had none of that. Either my way of dating is unconventional or something is up

is this normal?

I wrote a message telling him how I’m feeling as I feel I can communicate it better and put the conversation out there and he tells me “you know I’m not going to read all of this”. The message wasn’t even that long.

Im genuinely starting to think maybe I’m weird for asking these question from him

You said you're dating, so you must act meet sometimes. What do you talk about then? Is he silent while you prattle on, or do you have conversations?

It’s not clear what your ‘dating’ consists of. Do you meet? Do you have sex?

When we do get to meet. It will be surface level or he will start talking about himself

Cut your losses. No, it's not normal. It's not even a relationship – don't bothering asking why just delete his number and move on.

Is he someone who just doesn’t like messaging but is fun company when you are together?

He sounds awful. Toss this one back!

Sorry. X post. Yeah, dump him, he sounds boring.

He’s just made it clear he doesn’t care what you say as he can’t even be bothered to read it due to word count (on a text message?)
, sorry, but this one needs to go back in the sea

It sounds weird to me.

It's not you, it's him. Chuck him back.

he sounds rude and uncaring and cant be bothered and only interested in himself

I’m glad I’m not going crazy. I’ve tried to bring it up before and he brush it off and say something like “you know how I feel” but I really don’t. Not once has he said he really likes me or he sees a future with me. The most he’s said is “how much will I need to save for our wedding you look expensive” which was a joke and we’ve never spoken about being official but he’s talking about marriage.

Get rid.

How often do you see him? Have you met each others friends and family, and have you been on holiday together?

Stop wasting your time here.

It just sounds like he's not that into you. He's not asking questions to get to know you as he doesn't want to. He's not talking about where it is going, because its just casual for him. I would cut your losses now.

Without sounding harsh if he can’t even be bothered to read your message and tells you so, he doesn’t respect you whatsoever and I think he’s probably a shitty person as well, I’d never be so fucking rude to someone.

Doesn’t sound like a relationship at all.

you know I’m not going to read all of this

This is one of the most rude things I’ve ever heard.

He doesn’t like you OP.

Stop wasting your time on him and find someone else.

Is this what you envision for yourself? You're barely even getting crumbs.

Dump!

I do feel really ashamed that I’m even questioning all this. It’s made me feel really vulnerable. I’ve not felt cared or important this whole time and I started to think maybe I’m needy. I’ve never had a guy act like this at all.

If he can't be arsed to even read your messages, he isn't worth your time and effort.

He doesn’t respect you or like you. You’re a fuck buddy to him, not even a friend with benefits.

In the bin with him 🗑️