To expect him to come and see me after being in hospital?

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Was very casually seeing a guy for spring a year, then the past four-ish weeks it’s become much more serious. For example, we spent 5 nights in a row together last week.

I was hospitalised yesterday and I am quite unwell. He was already at the pub when I was in hospital yesterday and I had someone with me already. But tonight he has seen friends again and not come to see me.

He lives a five minute drive away.

AIBU to expect that so early on?

I'm not 100% following the timeline. Have you been dating a year or 4 weeks?

YANBU. He most certainly could make an effort. That is very thoughtless. I hope you feel better soon.

Completely forgot to say I have been discharged and I am home now.

We were just sleeping together casually for the year, FWB I guess. Last four weeks or so has gotten much more serious.

Glad you're home!

Ok well yes if you've been entwined for this long, then yes I would have at least expected him to say something along the lines of "I'd it OK if i come see you, do you need anything brought in, what are the visiting hours"

I'd actually probably steer clear of him tbh.

You should put him in hospital and don't visit him and see how he likes it

Or visit him but chuck the grapes at his head the bastard

Sorry OP but that really made me angry reading that, get rid of him please

Wrong thread, sorry

But what have your conversations actually been? I'm assuming he knows you went in but he might be thinking you want some space. Or, as we see many times here, he asked if you wanted him to come round, but you said " no, no I'm fine". But you expected him to be a mind reader and know you didnt mean it. Was it a heart attack or a planned ingrowing toenail removal?You haven't given many details for anyone to judge by.

For me it would depend on what you were admitted with?
something sudden and serious i’d expect him to call in 100% but if its been a planned small procedure with no real threat and a quick discharge maybe not?

Obviously not as serious as you thought.

Has it really got more serious because your example of that is just that you spent 5 nights in a row together. In your mind that might say more serious but in his it just might mean things are the same but you saw each other for more time.

Are you together though and exclusive? I don’t blame you for wanting to be but sounds like he still thinks it’s a FWB situation.

I think it's serious for you, not so much him.

I hope you feel better soon.

Just trying to work out how long you were in hospital. Sounds like you were admitted on Saturday, and you had someone with you.
Discharged by Sunday?