Name change for this- friend doesn't have mumsnet but needs to know this is not normal so has asked me to post for clarification.
Boyfriend of a year:
. Tells her she is speaking to her adult kids too much and checking in with them, says they should be left alone as they are adults. They have both moved out and she checks in with them maybe once every two days for a quick whatsapp.
. Tells her she is too involved with their business and acts like their friend because she asks them about how work is going and if they go out with mates asks how their friends are (children she's known since they were in year 7 who are now in twenties)
. Tells her she checks her ring doorbell when it goes off and it's weird (she checks when someone rings the doorbell?)
. Her niece had a baby and she has babysat a couple of times to give her a break and he's said my friend is being controlling because she is living having a baby through her niece and when that didn't stop her popping over to help he told her she is being mugged off by niece? She had a baby she should deal with it.
. Has four adult kids of his own he doesn't see or speak to and told friend that a good morning and goodnight message is sufficient because otherwise how will they grow into adults and cope with their own issues.
. Invited daughters boyfriend round for dinner and then got told she was weird for wanting to meet him and to leave off.
. If she picks her phone up of an evening to google something or the like he won't speak to her the next day?
. Tells her to send him her screentime weekly because she acts dodgy on her phone.
. If I go over to see her or anyone else, he acts abrasive and like it's a massive pain that anyone is in her house- clearly trying to make us feel awkward but it doesn't work- then tries to convince her we are rude,