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AIBU to feel permanently worried about things most of the time?

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BrownWoodenChair · 23/07/2026 14:52

Is anyone else permanent worried? I told my friend this and she looked at me like I was on drugs

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Gowlett · 24/07/2026 20:48

No. I don’t worry enough, if anything. I leave most things to chance… And they’ve always worked out. So far! I wish I could care more.

Nicelynicelyjohnson · 24/07/2026 21:02

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You fit more into my second sentence.
I don't need your pity.

Premiumfloppedbigtime · 24/07/2026 21:12

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Parchedhydrangea · 24/07/2026 21:27

Yes. I am permanently worried.

Objectively, I have a brilliant and relatively easy life. Amazing husband, good jobs, three beautiful children, financial security, good health, lovely friends. I appreciate it all.

And yet. I’m always tied in knots by worry about something. Often work. Since the children were born, usually something to do with them as well. Always worried about finances (I think this comes from a childhood where things were quite tight, and the mentality never leaves me).

It’s exhausting. Takes up so much of my headspace. Ruminating endlessly on all the potential bad outcomes and how to mitigate them. Worrying about every tiny decision and being paralysed by it.

Increasingly, I realise that my mum is the same. I can see that she’s never fully able to enjoy anything because her initial reaction is to jump to the negatives. She’s too uptight to ever just “be”. I recognise myself in this.

After years of putting it down to my personality, I’m coming to accept that there are features of anxiety disorder. I’ve arranged to start therapy. I’m interested to read what others have said about SSRIs being transformative - I think I ought to try these but I just can’t bring myself to go to the GP and shooting down the outward projection that I have it all. Which is stupid, I know.

iamnotalemon · Yesterday 04:11

I don’t have children. I think I would have been a permanent anxious mess had I had them. I am definitely a worrier, so you are not alone there. I also get overwhelmed and have to restrict the amount of news I read/listen to. I’d love to know what it’s like not to worry. I remember being a teenager and buying worry dolls (you would tell them your worries and put them in a little bag under your pillow - sound quite sinister from my description haha)

Short version is you are not alone.

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BrownWoodenChair · 23/07/2026 21:33

Something happening to dc mainly
I dont show them this but its hard !!!

Honestly, all parents live with this anxiety 24/7. You are not unusual to worry about your children. We all do, it's always there, it's just part of the condition of parenthood.

It's about how you cope with that, put it in its box, and still get on with and enjoy your life - that's what you are struggling with by the sound of it, it's dominating your life.

It sounds like you don't have very good coping mechanisms if it is constantly at the front of your mind and stopping you from living your life well.

I know you have had therapy but maybe you didn't have the right therapist if it was just 'OK' - can you look for some more? You do have some stuff to work through by the sound of it xx

GreatWhiteWail · Yesterday 08:20

I am permanently worried. It's exhausting. I am constantly thinking about impending catastrophe and how to mitigate or avoid. I think DH must find it difficult to live alongside this anxiety, but he says not. I don't believe him, so worry about that too.

I do have children, and it's been worse since then, but I definitely had these abnormal thought patterns as a teen too.

I think I have OCD, but I don't want to go to the GP as I think I just need to get better at controlling my thoughts and ruminations. I do sometimes recognise that my thoughts are not those of a normal person and tell myself that and carry on outwardly. I think that's progress, but I sometimes have a crash of overwhelming anxiety and distress from doing that, so maybe not.

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