AIBU to stop my son seeing friends after a vape incident?

[Thatmumhayley]

So my 9 nearly 10 Yr old son goes out at the park directly behind our house, has been playing with 2 siblings that live up the road of same ages. Anyway yesterday I found out from my youngest that my lad and another boy aged 10 had found a vape, the 10 year old lad had puffed on it and tried to hide it, my youngest (aged 8) said that's illegal and bad your get in trouble for that, and the lad chucked it. So now I've said to my lad he is not going out at the moment and can't play with those children again, but after thinking about it for 24 hrs I'm thinking AIBU. friendly advice and similar tricky parenting issues great fully received. Also my eldest is a people pleaser when it comes to friends, but definitely not at home.

My son had came home a little older, maybe 11, saying his friend had found a vape and had a go on it, he hadn't as he said it was dirty after being on the floor. I told him to think of the dirtiest person he can (we have a few well known drug users and drunks in our village,) how do they know if wasn't them who had dropped it, then they're putting their mouth where the dirty person had. We talked about cold sores and I showed him pictures. He agreed and he said about not wanting to 'catch diseases' and fully took it onboard.

It might not put him off vaping when he's older but atleast it stopped him considering having a go on the next vape his friend might have picked up. I think you've got to use your own judgement, they're always going to be around other kids who might do questionable things. Hopefully scaring him off with some gruesome pics (just use any with mouth sores!) will make him think twice next time.

My daughter was about 10 and playing out the back with a few other girls of a similar age, one of the girls was autistic so mentally a lot younger and she picked up a vape not knowing what it was. She said one of the other girls (not my daughter) was using the vape as she was upset with them for not allowing her to play when they were in someone's house. My daughter thinks vaping is dirty and is not comfortable using something someone else has used or that has been on the floor (she gets that from me!)