AIBU to feel constantly embarrassed and self conscious in public?

[mrlistersgelfbride]

This is something that is getting worse as I get older (I’m 41). I always feel like I am embarrassing myself in public.
I hate to be involved in any form of disagreement in public and people seeing me.
I have a DD and she is lovely but difficult at times and I struggle to always remain calm, I especially hate friends seeing this in social situations (like if we go out for the day with DDs friends/mums).
I am starting to understand why people limit their social interaction.
It’s hard as believe it or not I’m naturally emotive and a quite an oversharer but afterwards I end up hating myself for stupid things i’ve said to colleagues/friends and best myself up over it for days. Sometimes it seems easier to say nothing.

Can anyone recommend any self help? Is anyone else like this?
I don’t tend to do well with therapy, the last CBT counsellor I saw said i didn’t fit ‘the model’ and I didn’t find another counsellor to be helpful.
Surely it’s not normal to deal with this level of self- embarrassment?

I think, whether 'normal' or not, it's not uncommon. There isn't a solution as such, you just have to keep asking yourself how much of it really matters - will it matter in a day's time, a week's time, a month's time, a year's time? The answer is usually that it doesn't matter.

Children arguing with their parents is such a common sight no one will think anything of it.

Look at it this way - Nobody is thinking about you as much as you think about yourself.

I am sure i have probably seen people do embarassing things in public. Can I remember any off the top of my head? No
Can I remember mine? Yes

Try and think of yourself as being self absorbed when you think like this.

Even if they do think about your argument about with your daughter they will not be ruminating on it for week. Unless it was something completely out of the ordinary.

I find any social interaction difficuly OP and worry about it and obsess about it afterwards.

One of the more helpful things I got out of CBT was the thought that other people are so absorbed with their own lives they aren't really thinking about me . They are getting on with what concerns them and won't give any more than a passing thought to their interaction with me.

And the other helpful thing was the question Do I really care about the person's opinion of me? If they were to think badly if me does it really matter?

I have been through periods of low self-esteem and it sounds like what you are describing.

Do you have any hobbies or outside interests? I would suggest getting involved in something to develop a skill in an area you enjoy. This has been very helpful for me.