AIBU to think another school mum is being childish?

[ThisKhakiMaker]

There is a mum at school who I have known for years and have been quite friendly with up until the beginning of the year, since then it has been like I’m invisible and she looks up in the air when I walk past. Since her son and my DS (9) are close friends I’ve not said anything as to be frank I don’t want the confrontation.

There is an older boy (10) who lives in the same area who sees my son as a ‘weakling’ in his words and picks on him - i have spoken to his mum many times about this. Last night however this child had called my son ‘gayjay’ and pushed him over and kicked him. I asked him to come to the door so I could speak but he refused, I went out and said to him it all stops now the verbal and physical abuse - I didn’t shout or even raise my voice at the child. The parent of my DS friend saw this and confronted my son when I went back inside and said ‘your mum has no right to do that’ ‘she shouldn’t be speaking to children like that’. I went out to ask her why she felt the need to say this to him and why didn’t she speak to me about this if she has an issue, I had asked to speak to her in private without others round but she said no. Her reply was that she didn’t want her son to play with mine as she had ‘seen how I spoke to children’, when I told her that she does not know the bigger picture and that it’s not fair to to stop two close friends from playing her reply was that ‘she only cared about that incident and her son will just fine not being friends with my DS and I should deal with my DS’. I asked her why she was being so nasty whereas I was told that she will sleep fine tonight and I will have trouble sleeping because of this situation. We kept going round in circles as to why would you stop two friends from playing and the fact that she has some issue with me but won’t admit to it. Eventually I gave up, as she was sat with a smirk on her face with her SIL hanging on her every word, as I walked away she continued to shout at me when I asked why she was continuing to shout at me her words were ‘your talking too much go away’.

Later that evening my DS went out and continued to play with her son, however she has now said that he is not allowed to play with any of his toys that he brings out.

AIBU to think that this is being childish and that she has found a small issue of which is none of her business to stop them being friends?

As the child is 10, I would be taking the footage to the police, SS and potentially the school (whilst this happened out of school, the school needs to know what is going on between them). Ignore the other mother. You need to be doing everything you can to look after your son.

My thoughts exactly.

I wouldn’t give that woman a second thought.

the bullying, however, needs to be dealt with! Your poor son.

Because that wasn’t the point of the thread? As I said in the post, I’ve not said anything for 7 months I’ve left her too it let bygones be bygones. The point of the the thread is that I have firmly told the child to leave him alone - it is the 6 week holidays now, my son should be able to play out without dealing with this. The point of the thread is how the woman has dealt with the situation by saying how her son can no longer be friends with mine as I firmly told a bully to back off

But should my son not be able to play out without being bullied? It’s the 6 week holidays

Yes, but he can’t.
I’m not totally clear, are there two other boys? A good friend and a bully? The friend’s mum has said they can’t play anymore because you challenged the bully?

Whatever it is, you need to stop sending your son out to play where he gets attacked. You are normalising really bad behaviour. Your son doesn’t need to learn to put up with it, he needs to learn to go somewhere else.

I would waste more time or her and my child wouldn't go out to play with hers.

A little boy is being bullied, another mum is being awful to op and son and that’s your main takeaway? Doesn’t matter what is said on this site you always get horrible people trying to make people who are having a hard time even worse

Boot?

Respectfully, why isn’t it the ‘point of the thread’? Your own altercations with another adult are entirely minor in comparison to your young child being seriously bullied.

Exactly what I was thinking! Why hasn't the mum done more to stop/report this bully? Gone to the Head at school. Shown video footage. Complained to governors etc. Say this child needs appropriate punishment etc. All very odd & worrying.

What the hell? I would be giving this child a good old fashioned snack and calling the police to scare him, how dare he bully your child in this way and you are so right to stand up to him. There’s nothing wrong with telling another person’s kid off if they are bullying yours. Standing up for your kid will teach them how to do it themselves too when you’re not there.

YABU stop sending you child out to play with bullies!

It has been picked up with school and parents many times, but that wasn’t the main point of the post…I confronted him in a firm manner after speaking to school and his parent on numerous occasion