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Train seat reservations

133 replies

littlebilliie · 13/07/2026 22:39

That if you booked a seat it’s yours?

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randomchap · 13/07/2026 22:41

Who says it isn't?

NorthXNorthWest · 13/07/2026 22:41

randomchap · 13/07/2026 22:41

Who says it isn't?

There is always some arsehole who sits in your reserved seat and refuses to move.

SallyD00lally · 13/07/2026 22:42

Is there a competition on Mumsnet to see who can post the most threads with the least amount of words?

randomchap · 13/07/2026 22:43

SallyD00lally · 13/07/2026 22:42

Is there a competition on Mumsnet to see who can post the most threads with the least amount of words?

Probably

NotAnotherScarf · 13/07/2026 22:45

No the seat isn't yours. It belongs to Network Rail. You have bought the right to sit in it for the duration of that journey

littlebilliie · 13/07/2026 22:46

I got called an ableist for asking someone to leave the seat we had booked today. One of the ladies had cane, there was a disability table free. We were a party of 4 and needed the table as a family and the carriage was empty. I hasten to add they hadn’t sat down. Another women unrelated to the party waded in called me an ableist

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randomchap · 13/07/2026 22:47

NotAnotherScarf · 13/07/2026 22:45

No the seat isn't yours. It belongs to Network Rail. You have bought the right to sit in it for the duration of that journey

Nice pedantry.

But ultimately it probably belongs to the rolling stock company the train company is renting the carriage from.

AplineDaisies · 13/07/2026 22:48

What did they say when you pointed out that you had booked it ?

NorthXNorthWest · 13/07/2026 22:48

littlebilliie · 13/07/2026 22:46

I got called an ableist for asking someone to leave the seat we had booked today. One of the ladies had cane, there was a disability table free. We were a party of 4 and needed the table as a family and the carriage was empty. I hasten to add they hadn’t sat down. Another women unrelated to the party waded in called me an ableist

If the disability table was free I would have asked them to move cane or no cane. There is no reason for them sitting in reserved seats in that scenario.

Cooshawn · 13/07/2026 22:48

NotAnotherScarf · 13/07/2026 22:45

No the seat isn't yours. It belongs to Network Rail. You have bought the right to sit in it for the duration of that journey

If you're going to be patronising, at least know what you're talking about before going all smart arse.

Network Rail don't own any trains in the UK. The trains are owned by Angel, Eversholt and Porterbrook. Network Rail owns most of the infrastructure.

randomchap · 13/07/2026 22:49

littlebilliie · 13/07/2026 22:46

I got called an ableist for asking someone to leave the seat we had booked today. One of the ladies had cane, there was a disability table free. We were a party of 4 and needed the table as a family and the carriage was empty. I hasten to add they hadn’t sat down. Another women unrelated to the party waded in called me an ableist

Then they were being a dick.

I had to turf someone out of my booked seat on Friday. He huffed and puffed like a petulant child.

ABoldStatement · 13/07/2026 22:49

What’s a disability table? Not heard of them before.

But people sitting in seats reserved by others (and then refusing to move, more specifically) is a bugbear of mine.

LightlyRoamingOcelots · 13/07/2026 22:49

littlebilliie · 13/07/2026 22:39

That if you booked a seat it’s yours?

It depends. Sometimes yes.

If a train gets cancelled then all seat bookings on the next train are sometimes declared void and all seats are to be considered unreserved.

It is possible to book two seats and then your expected travelling companion doesn't show up. The unoccupied seat is not yours and cannot be used for your bags or for your own comfort - you only get one seat.

If neither of these apply and someone is occupying the seat you booked and there's nowhere else on the train you could sit but they refuse to move then yes they are a tosser.

littlebilliie · 13/07/2026 22:52

AplineDaisies · 13/07/2026 22:48

What did they say when you pointed out that you had booked it ?

She said we were having an altercation as I pointed out it was our table - just so weird and overly aggressive because I disagreed with her. We all arrived at the same time and it marked reserved.

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littlebilliie · 13/07/2026 22:54

ABoldStatement · 13/07/2026 22:49

What’s a disability table? Not heard of them before.

But people sitting in seats reserved by others (and then refusing to move, more specifically) is a bugbear of mine.

They tend to have wheelchair access and move, they are on a few trains and have a lot more space

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SallyD00lally · 13/07/2026 22:55

littlebilliie · 13/07/2026 22:52

She said we were having an altercation as I pointed out it was our table - just so weird and overly aggressive because I disagreed with her. We all arrived at the same time and it marked reserved.

“We are hsuan altercation “

Bit weird?

littlebilliie · 13/07/2026 22:56

randomchap · 13/07/2026 22:49

Then they were being a dick.

I had to turf someone out of my booked seat on Friday. He huffed and puffed like a petulant child.

I think on a moving train it’s difficult to see sometimes, this was leaving a mainline station and net prepared train

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Pistachiocake · 13/07/2026 22:56

NorthXNorthWest · 13/07/2026 22:41

There is always some arsehole who sits in your reserved seat and refuses to move.

Edited

It should be like a plane, but as they're never going to have the same staffing levels, unfortunately I'm not sure what you can do. This is why my mum always took a dog on the train-no one bothers you, and wouldn't pull this. Can you borrow a dog from someone?

littlebilliie · 13/07/2026 22:56

She didn’t even want the table and was looking to be difficult.

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littlebilliie · 13/07/2026 22:57

Hmm sadly no dog with us today

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littlebilliie · 13/07/2026 23:03

Thanks for your thoughts on this, I hate anything like this and if you stand up for yourself people don’t like it. I think this woman thought I would capitulate because she decided to allocate our seats. I am bored of people like this.

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GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 13/07/2026 23:11

NorthXNorthWest · 13/07/2026 22:41

There is always some arsehole who sits in your reserved seat and refuses to move.

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In that case you summon the guard to sort them out.

NorthXNorthWest · 13/07/2026 23:14

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 13/07/2026 23:11

In that case you summon the guard to sort them out.

I haven on several train where the person "squatting" refused to move and the guard told the passenger with the reservation that they would find them another seat. Hasn't happened to me yet, but give it time.

fashionqueen0123 · 13/07/2026 23:18

I wish they’d scrap them. More hassle than they’re worth in many cases

Weeellokthen · 13/07/2026 23:20

"Ableist " , did someone actually say that word? I have never ever heard anyone in real life using that in a sentence? 😂