AIBU to skip my manager's dinner party if I'm being pushed out?

[OneBlueCat]

I started a new job around 6 months ago and it's pretty clear I'm not a fit for the team for a number of reasons. Management are trying to push me out by manufacturing a 'record' of me not meeting vague and changing goals.

A while back I accepted an invitation to go to a dinner party at my big boss' house, along with all the other management team. It's not a particularly convenient day and would mean I miss out on something else I want to do on that Sunday.

Originally I agreed to go, as it would look good and I could try and 'win' the team over. It's clear I'm not going to win, and I suspect I will be fired within a month.

AIBU to make my excuses and say I can no longer attend?

Yes. You're an adult you don't have to go to stuff you don't want to.
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Honestly, if showing up isn't going to make any difference and there's enough notice for whoever, then I would skip it. Use the time to apply for something else😃

Absolutely don't go. Spend the time figuring out whether you can negotiate a good severance to leave quietly.

It’s six months, why on earth would they pay her anything more than they have to, they can get rid for any reason past discriminatory without putting their hands in their pockets at all.

op, if you’re sure then don’t go, but if there is a chance you can save this, I’d go.

I’d go just to piss them off.

If I had nothing else on that day, I would probably go. But what's the point missing my niece's birthday for a company/team that don't like me?

There is discrimination

Ok your op didn’t say that. If there is discrimation then involve your union, if not contact acas.

Thank you - considering it

I wouldn't even go to that if the job was working out brilliantly. Sounds horrendous.

No way would I go under these circumstances.

It's hard to know what to do - if I don't go, I know they'll just all talk and complain about me