DH didn't shout me that football had restarted?

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DH doesn't have an interest in football but I always watch the world cup.

Obviously just went into extra time and he asks me to make him a cup of tea.

I'm in kitchen doing some bits, I don't watch fb often so I thought there would be quite a break before it restarted.

Getting milk out and hear DH shout 'get in there lad' and run into living room to see game has been on a couple of mins and England have scored.

AIBU to be really fucking annoyed that i missed it because he didn't let me know it had come back on.

He said he was 'hardly watching it' WTF does that even mean? I heard him celebrate.

to be fair, it does sometimes depend on whose turn it is. However in this circumstance the lazy arse should have made his own

My fiancée was out all day on a bender with workmates, including a girl who messages him constantly outside of work. Left me home looking after our 3 year old twins. Promised he would be relatively sober and home by 10 to watch the match with me. Came home hammered and went to sleep. It could be worse OP thank your lucky stars you’re not with my fella

Really???? give your head a wobble

No no
if hed refused that would be outrageous. It’s quite simple.

man asks woman. He’s an arse
woman asks man. He’s an arse

Of course we do, but if one of us is watching something live, and the other isn't bothered, then obviously the one who isn't bothered would be the one who left the room to go and make the cuppa.

If I want a cup of tea, I make it myself - I don’t ask someone else to make it for me. While I’m making it, I’ll offer to make one for anyone else who wants one, and I’d expect the same in return.

Unless you’ve got a good reason, like you’re in the middle of breast-feeding or you’ve got a broken leg, I think it’s “what did your last servant die of” territory to ask someone to do something you’re perfectly able to do yourself.

Offer, fine. Ask, not fine.

Unless you’re in a massive mansion with your living room being a short car drive from your kitchen, you didn’t hear it restart? You didn’t wander back to check since you’re so invested always watching the World Cup? Really?

In your opinion. I often ask my DH to make me a drink, and vice versa. We are both happy with the situation. So it’s ’fine’ for us. Unless you think we should stop doing something we’re both happy with because you think it’s ’not fine’?

It was in the break before extra time. The problem was that, as the OP doesn’t actually really watch football, she didn’t realise that that’s only a short break rather than the usual 15 min half time break.

He should make his own tea. You should manage your own time.

Another one here to find out why he asked you to make him tea and you actually did it.

Another DH with no arms?

You have my sympathy as I missed the goal too. Long boring story as to why, but DH was in the room where the match was on the tv. When I entered & saw the score, I immediately said, “Oh no, I missed the goal!” & he said, “Oh, have England scored?” He’s Scottish, but even so, we were watching the match together.

Is there a deeper issue here? This isn’t worth getting upset over

Is this not a LTB situation if I’ve ever read one?

If you want to watch something it's on you to make sure you're in the room at the appropriate time to watch it!

Honestly, if you even have the mental bandwidth to make it this big a thing then your life's probably not too problem-filled on the whole, so I think a little perspective is needed here.

Clearly going against the grain here but my partner and I watch a lot of football together and if one of us is in the kitchen when the second half or extra time is starting (because yes we’re both grown adults but will still happily make each other a cup of tea!) whoever is watching will call out “quick, it’s back on!” especially if it’s an England World Cup match! And tbh both he and I would be a bit miffed if we weren’t called and had missed a goal!

This is utterly shit behaviour, completely not my place to say but it sounds like he should be your ex-fiancé!